What would you do? (marital 'infidelity'?)

[pipi_k]

10. But people here

are emotionally UN involved enough to sit and say he should get divorced, when that's not an easy thing to do.

I've been on both sides of this equation...both the cheater, and the one cheated on.

My experience is that a person who cheats is expressing things s/he can't verbalize and so the person acts out anger or frustration.


Also...these sorts of things are not always one sided. I'm not saying the husband has cheated, but perhaps (in spite of how people want to view him as being a "victim&quot he also has a part in this whole drama.

Did he cause her to cheat? No. But maybe their relationship isn't meeting her emotional needs because he is emotionally distant.

Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. What people need from each other and what they can or can't provide.

In any case, counseling seems to be in order here, either as a couple, or individually. If she doesn't want to go, then that's that.

But the bottom line here is...people who find themselves being "doormats" for others also have issues that need to be addressed...one of the most important one being WHY they attract people who walk all over them. Once they figure out what attracts them to people who treat them like dirt, they stop attracting people who treat them like dirt.

In any case, the opinions we're all giving here are just that...opinions...and the guy is going to do what he wants to, no matter what anybody here thinks.