What would you do? (marital 'infidelity'?)

[Sugarbazooka]

32. Take an objective look.

Well, that really stinks... especially with children involved. The first thing to do, though, is to take an objective look. In order to do that, you have to take all the feelings and blame out of the equation. You have to just look at the situation as it is and admit that things are just as they are, regardless of who is the "bad guy" and who is the "victim." Once you take the emotions and blame out, it makes it much clearer to see what your options are and what is the right thing to do. Concern numero uno.... THOSE CHILDREN. Don't let them get caught in the middle of a drama. Do whatever you have to to protect them and keep them safe emotionally, physically and financially. And then he can ask himself two things... 1) "Is there any chance that this relationship can be repaired?" and 2) "If it was possible to repair it, would I want to badly enough to do what it would take?" I think that would be a good start. And remember... those are only questions HE can answer.