What would you do? (marital 'infidelity'?)

[PassingFair]

57. He needs to get a job.

Unless the kids are newborns, the whole family will
be better off.

I don't know how men endured all of the pressure, in
decades past, of being the sole provider, especially in
tough economic times.

My husband was "under-employed" for over seven years.
He never made more than $10,000/year during those years.

I was SO stressed out that there were WEEKS where I
didn't want to be TOUCHED, let alone "get physical" with
him, partly from resentment of having to carry the whole
load, but mostly from anxiety of having to row
the ship all by myself, keep my kids (and him)healthy and happy, etc.

Now that he's working, the pressure on me has been greatly reduced,
and our marriage is MUCH happier.

I have to say that I was NEVER tempted to have an affair, I was literally
too stressed out to think about that.