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In reply to the discussion: What would you do? (marital 'infidelity'?) [View all]Major Nikon
(36,925 posts)122. Hogwash
As I pointed out to you in my last post, you have taken what I wrote and turned it around completely backwards. I said that these principles could be applied to animals. I did NOT say the reverse no matter how many times you claim I did. Your wishing it were so for some strange and unknown reason does not make it so. For the cheap seats, this is exactly what I said, verbatim...
It's amazing how much you can improve your relationships by practicing these things. It even works with animals. The movie The Horse Whisperer, was based on a real guy that learned how to train horses without using contempt.
Either you didn't understand what I wrote, or you're simply trying to put words in my mouth for the sake of being argumentative. No reasonable person could honestly make the inference you're making. I didn't say anything close to what you're alleging, and I even went to the effort of clarifying what should have been a very straightforward and easy to understand assertion. You're really getting in deep here and I'm not going to get into a big drawn out fight on the Lounge. I'm not going to continue to argue on what you think I said. I've laid it out quite clearly for you. If you simply refuse to acknowledge your error, or refuse or are unable to understand what was written and clarified, I can't help you any farther.
Cheers!
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Yup me too seabeyond and boston bean. My husband and I had that convo before we were even married
riderinthestorm
Mar 2012
#35
We've had that discussion, too. You are in our you're out. No sitting on the fence.
IndyJones
Mar 2012
#52
Cheating is just a symptom of marriage problems, not the actual problem itself
Major Nikon
Mar 2012
#42
The hardest part is coming to terms with what caused the breakdown of the marriage
Major Nikon
Mar 2012
#75
seeking solace outside the relationship, is a what is wrong, no matter what!
boston bean
Mar 2012
#76
Actually in the vast majority of cases that's just a symptom and not the actual problem
Major Nikon
Mar 2012
#82
I understand they get past it. He needs to let her know this is unacceptable.
boston bean
Mar 2012
#83
There's a lot of new information regarding what makes for good relationships
Major Nikon
Mar 2012
#111
Yikes the Horse Whisperer is not about contempt! It's about working with an animal's instincts
riderinthestorm
Mar 2012
#113
You tried to make an analogy using alpha/beta relationships, applying them to a marriage partnership
riderinthestorm
Mar 2012
#121
Not sure if this is relevant, but in the book The Horse Whisperer, the main female character
classof56
Mar 2012
#125
She needs to make a choice and until she does, she should move out. She made a vow and she's
IndyJones
Mar 2012
#53
I agree. You are a doormat or you're not. If he lets her go down that path, he loses respect and
IndyJones
Mar 2012
#51
Those are hard enough to negotiate going in, let alone after the papers have been signed.
GliderGuider
Mar 2012
#109
honestly, who would want a pos that would not only do this to her man, but another woman
seabeyond
Mar 2012
#73
with ya. i can understand a mate falling out of love. but to do it with a married person...
seabeyond
Mar 2012
#79
I suspect its too late, but I would try to save things while protecting myself NOW
dr.strangelove
Mar 2012
#56
I think your wife needs to sit down with her friend and knock some fucking sense in her head.
HopeHoops
Mar 2012
#74
Nobody can know what's in someone else's heart, so I won't dump on either of them. But
GliderGuider
Mar 2012
#96
I would start seeing a counsellor with the wife. They have kids and she owes them that much.
applegrove
Mar 2012
#114