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In reply to the discussion: True or false..."You are the Master of your own destiny" nt [View all]mythology
(9,527 posts)I think most people don't recognize the impact of their choices either due to not realizing they are making a choice, or believing they don't have a choice.
Even something like cancer can be influenced by your diet, or where you live.
I'm currently in the last stages of recovering from a major knee surgery that has a relatively high risk of not being able to return to sports when you're done. But by doing my rehab (I missed two days of rehab work in 6 months) and doing additional things to strengthen my leg/knee, I managed to set myself well ahead of schedule in terms of leg strength and likelihood of returning to sports. Yet I see other people who have the same surgery either give up, or not do their rehab and find they aren't progressing.
Yes a bolt of lightning could hit me tomorrow. But I can take steps to put myself in the best situations and I find that the harder I work, the luckier I get.
That said, most people who think that they know me in real life, seem to think that I'm Eeyore and that bad things will always happen to me, but those same people don't realize that I use that sort of mopiness to fuel my drive (admittedly not the emotionally healthiest approach). I spent 17 years listening to my dad tell me I wasn't good enough and I've spent the last 17 proving that he was wrong.