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trof

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17. Why?

Tue Jan 26, 2016, 08:42 PM

Jan 2016

OK, this is very personal and obviously none of my business.
But you did put the situation out there on a public forum.

I was 30 when our daughter was born. Miz t. was 27. We were always the oldest parents in her class.

That was over 40 years ago and yes, mores and morals were different back then. People get married later in life. People don't marry, but have children. That seems to be accepted now. Whatever.

You're in your 50s. You'll be an old man when your child is in their 20s.
If the child is handicapped, how will you provide for his care when you are dead?

Sorry to be so blunt.
Just my first gut reaction to your OP.
I really wish both of you all the best.
Peace.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 OP

What?? No reply's...Thanks! ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #1

Sorry. I don't know about the tests, elleng Jan 2016 #2

That is not what I wanted to hear thank you very much. ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #4

Sorry. Read this: elleng Jan 2016 #6

Thank you very much for the link I feel better. But it's probably the mix of Xanax's and Beer I'm ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #9

From what I found on the internet, LisaL Jan 2016 #3

Thank you, that makes me feel better I appreciate it. ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #5

Do both of you want a child? trof Jan 2016 #7

Yes!! ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #8

Why? trof Jan 2016 #17

People are having children at older and older ages these days. LisaL Jan 2016 #18

I know. My daughter had a child at 35. trof Jan 2016 #19

My mother had me at 39 and my brother 5 years later- LiberalElite Jan 2016 #20

My grandmother was 38 when she had my mother, in 1920. The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2016 #23

I was 39 when my youngest was born. Blue_In_AK Jan 2016 #36

Not sure if this will help but from the Mayo Clinic azurnoir Jan 2016 #33

I would advise you to get acquainted with people with Down's KamaAina Jan 2016 #10

No!! ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #12

Why not? sharp_stick Jan 2016 #24

For what logical reason would you refuse counsel from people dealing with the same issue? ohnoyoudidnt Jan 2016 #26

Okay. That's enough. Iggo Jan 2016 #43

I see you are in WV KamaAina Jan 2016 #11

Yes Wheeling, WV. ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #13

Wait a minute. There's only a 1 in 365 chance the baby will have Down's? KamaAina Jan 2016 #14

What do you mean Doctor said she tested Positive for Downs Syndrome. Her blood count number 1-325 at ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #15

Sorry, I speak very little medical jargon. KamaAina Jan 2016 #16

Not an expert but... LP2K12 Jan 2016 #21

AL, this sounds like it was the initial screening woodsprite Jan 2016 #22

Thank you very much, I appreciate it greatly you made me feel much better. ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #25

This is an issue for the woman carrying the child. She can consult with you, as the father, but MADem Jan 2016 #34

I'm sure it's going to be tough to wait until Feb 12. MissB Jan 2016 #27

Also I should say that while an amnio MissB Jan 2016 #28

This message was self-deleted by its author mrmpa Jan 2016 #31

I was a 35 yo first time mom mnhtnbb Jan 2016 #29

IIRC, the initial test has a very high probability of false positive readings MrsMatt Jan 2016 #30

Since you're in the Wheeling area....... mrmpa Jan 2016 #32

You have my sympathies. But Downies aren't all bad news Bucky Jan 2016 #35

Hey! I resemble that remark! KamaAina Jan 2016 #42

No offence intended, your madge Bucky Jan 2016 #50

The 2 of you are going to receive more love than you could ever imagine UTUSN Jan 2016 #37

And what the hell is that suppose to mean? ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #40

Not quite sure what you're seeking here. Advice? Solace? Cheers? WinkyDink Jan 2016 #38

What percentage is 1 out 365 chance and why would you even ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #39

1 in 365 is about 0.27% discntnt_irny_srcsm Jan 2016 #41

Thank you very much I feel better now. I'm not very ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #44

You're welcome discntnt_irny_srcsm Jan 2016 #48

Now see once again you put things or situations in a positive ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #49

Have you considered that there are so many disabilities your child could have? mentalsolstice Jan 2016 #45

Mentalsolstice I have just sent an alert because of your insensitive and ArnoldLayne Jan 2016 #47

Well, I'm still here. Judgmental and rude, nope. Realistic, yes. mentalsolstice Jan 2016 #51

As an aside, please try to look after your own health. demmiblue Jan 2016 #46