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MissB

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7. "No."

Reply to SujiwanKenobee (Original post)

Sat Jun 4, 2016, 12:02 AM

Jun 2016

It's easiest really. Pull off the bandaid and say no. If you feel that you must add more to 'be polite' then let her know that while you appreciate that she grew up here, it's your home now and it's private- it is not a public museum for tours.

If she's written you then you likely have her address so drop her a flowery card with the above. If she writes again then mark the envelope return to sender/refused.

I bought a house from an estate. We've done tons of work on it. No way would I let the former owner's kids or grandkids tour it. If they wanted to keep the house then they should've bought it when it was up for sale.

If you don't nip this firmly in the bud now, she will periodically show up with random people. Do you really want that?

No.

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Advice req: Former house "owners" wanting to visit causing disquiet [View all] SujiwanKenobee Jun 2016 OP

Tough situation, but I don't think it is abnormal Xipe Totec Jun 2016 #1

If it was my place sharp_stick Jun 2016 #2

I can see where that would make you uncomfortable. ScreamingMeemie Jun 2016 #3

That's weird A Little Weird Jun 2016 #4

"You can never go home again, but I guess you can shop there" - Martin Blank in Gross Pointe Blank aidbo Jun 2016 #5

If it were me, I absolutely would not want them coming in intrepidity Jun 2016 #6

"No." MissB Jun 2016 #7

I agree. Sometimes you have to be firm with rude people TexasBushwhacker Jun 2016 #17

Best course of action. Just say no. Fla Dem Jun 2016 #23

This message was self-deleted by its author Fla Dem Jun 2016 #24

politely say " no." hopemountain Jun 2016 #8

Weird question: do you think they might have stashed/buried something there? Recursion Jun 2016 #9

Or... I wonder if they found the hidden corpse yet? Quantess Jun 2016 #10

I had the opposite thing happen marlakay Jun 2016 #11

Absolutely not magical thyme Jun 2016 #12

It's not unusual for someone who grew up in a house to ask to see it again. mnhtnbb Jun 2016 #13

I'm sorry if it sounds harsh discntnt_irny_srcsm Jun 2016 #14

If it's making you uncomfortable, just tell them you don't think it's a good idea. LisaL Jun 2016 #15

Probably say it with a little more conviction gratuitous Jun 2016 #20

I'm an extremely private person. cwydro Jun 2016 #16

Same here. athena Jun 2016 #30

Yeah, I think she's stepped just a bit away from normal. cwydro Jun 2016 #31

Hdaughter of one of the former owners whistler162 Jun 2016 #18

If someone said they used to live in my house, I'd be happy to show them around... brooklynite Jun 2016 #19

This person has been harrassing the OP WolverineDG Jun 2016 #28

you shouldn't have be hiding in your own house. IcyPeas Jun 2016 #21

WTF Skittles Jun 2016 #22

this is creepy imo restorefreedom Jun 2016 #25

I can understand a sense of nostalgia, but... Orrex Jun 2016 #26

No. Just no. You don't owe them anything and Phentex Jun 2016 #27

'I'm sorry, but it's not convenient for us right now...' should be quite enough to discourage underahedgerow Jun 2016 #29

Was always curious about our first house Freddie Jun 2016 #32

You said you're "ignoring" the phone calls. noamnety Jun 2016 #33

Been on both ends of this and this is my humble advice. KentuckyWoman Jun 2016 #34

Agreed with most of what you said until..... Fla Dem Jun 2016 #35

It's your house. Not hers. July Jun 2016 #36