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9. IF you give the money don't expect it back. Make it a gift, with no free refills. nt

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Sun Jan 8, 2017, 07:36 PM

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OK, a real question seeking real advice in a sticky family sitch. [View all] OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 OP

You are not a scrooge Generic Brad Jan 2017 #1

Thanks OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #4

Tell them you will gladly consider it along with their plan for repayment. Coventina Jan 2017 #2

That's helpful. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #5

Good luck to you! It is a sticky wicket. If, by chance, the relative DOES come back with a plan, Coventina Jan 2017 #8

I think it would all be for show -- OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #13

Re: " I hate feeling like a scrooge" Donkees Jan 2017 #3

I appreciate that. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #6

Only with collateral and a detailed payment plan outlining precisely where the funds Floyd R. Turbo Jan 2017 #7

She'd never do it. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #11

IF you give the money don't expect it back. Make it a gift, with no free refills. nt TeamPooka Jan 2017 #9

Yes, no matter what promises she made, I'd have to say OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #33

Just say "no." It's not a dirty word. "No, I can't do that." is fine and needs no further explainati Heddi Jan 2017 #10

It's terrible to say. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #12

The ironic thing for me is that it was my mother & grandmother who warned me when I was young Heddi Jan 2017 #17

Again, thanks of sharing your story. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #20

If you are inclined to give relative #2 $10,000 to assist relative #1 mnhtnbb Jan 2017 #14

Thanks OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #19

It depends on how close a relative and how high the request. rug Jan 2017 #15

Very close. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #16

Well, I would give what I could and tell them to keep it. rug Jan 2017 #18

FWIW, you should tell her no. sarge43 Jan 2017 #21

Thanks. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #32

I have a sibling that "borrowed" $10,000 about years ago Thor_MN Jan 2017 #22

Yeah, I went through that with "friends" OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #31

stay strong. mopinko Jan 2017 #23

I appreciate that. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #30

Stick to your decision. GeorgeGist Jan 2017 #24

Thank you. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #29

She's getting money somehow from somewhere TexasBushwhacker Jan 2017 #25

That's true. And a bit scary. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #27

Sometimes homelessness or the threat of homelessness TexasBushwhacker Jan 2017 #34

Well, OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #35

I'm on SSDI for depression myself TexasBushwhacker Jan 2017 #36

Again, thanks very much. That is helpful to know. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #37

Not sure I understand. Iggo Jan 2017 #26

Well, I feel bad. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #28

Ah, they're just paying her off so she doesn't show up homeless on their doorstep. hunter Jan 2017 #38

I'd rather she sleep on my couch than give OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #39

Put aside money to buy her a bus ticket if it ever comes to that. hunter Jan 2017 #41

Wow. OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #42

Blow a loud raspberry and stumble away laughing. Orrex Jan 2017 #40

Thank you! OrwellwasRight Jan 2017 #43