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TuxedoKat

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16. This is great advice

Reply to Warpy (Reply #3)

Mon Jan 23, 2017, 11:19 AM

Jan 2017

Read and reread the first paragraph Warpy wrote. In a book I read years ago (The Gift of Fear), with stalkers, every time you engage with them, even negatively, it just encourages them to keep trying because they got you to engage with them. In their minds, they see that what they did worked, so they will keep trying other tactics to keep the connection alive. They need to get the message that nothing they do will work.

Here's the author's website:

http://gavindebecker.com/resources/book/the_gift_of_fear/

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Alright, that's fucking it. What is in my family's legal rights to do something about an insane ex? [View all] retrowire Jan 2017 OP

You'll have to start with a TRO (Temporary Restraing Order.) onecaliberal Jan 2017 #1

You will have to contact adult social services. HassleCat Jan 2017 #2

first, find out if your state has anti stalking laws Warpy Jan 2017 #3

bonus question. retrowire Jan 2017 #8

If he's trying to contact her in NC, NC laws would get him Warpy Jan 2017 #9

Alright, well all the contact is made in NC retrowire Jan 2017 #11

This might help: North Carolina Stalking Laws csziggy Jan 2017 #13

The border causes an issue for him. He's in violation of federal law. yardwork Jan 2017 #19

This is great advice TuxedoKat Jan 2017 #16

I had a stalker Warpy Jan 2017 #18

He's probably abusing his mother too. apcalc Jan 2017 #4

Well judging by what my niece saw, I'd say so. retrowire Jan 2017 #7

Why would anyone in your family respond to him in any fashion? procon Jan 2017 #5

No one ever replied to the guy. retrowire Jan 2017 #6

You can complain to Farcebook and his ISP Warpy Jan 2017 #10

Read "The Gift of Fear." Rule 1. Do. Not. Engage. Not One. WORD. Ignore the creep's mother! WinkyDink Jan 2017 #12

Print that stuff, take it to the police to add to the report. politicat Jan 2017 #14

you nail it in your last sentence Skittles Jan 2017 #15

He's a stalker and there are laws on the books now lunatica Jan 2017 #17

Stalker. Restraining order. UTUSN Jan 2017 #20