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In reply to the discussion: At what point do you cut ties with a toxic family member? [View all]Coventina
(27,224 posts)18. Thanks so much. It really helps to hear from someone who has been there.
I have been hesitant to involve my sister, I know her heart is already broken by this extreme dysfunction between herself and her son.
My brother (as I mentioned upthread) is now essentially his custodian, letting him live rent-free in his house. But, we have helped my nephew numerous times in various ways. We do need to think carefully about how and in what manner to approach him. Clearly, the "blank check" approach does not ensure a good relationship.
My brother's latest proposal is to tell our nephew that he MUST attend counseling to continue to reside in his house.
My husband and I are going to help underwrite that, if he accepts that proposal.
*sigh*
Thanks again.
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you may continue to allow his actions but chances are society will not . exiting and not enabling
lunasun
May 2017
#5
Thanks. I think we do need to rethink our approach. It has always been unconditional.
Coventina
May 2017
#14
Yes, he most definitely needs help. And, it is clear he is not (yet) interested in truly changing.
Coventina
May 2017
#32