Mr. Tavernier passed away last Sunday.

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59. Nineteen months today without my way better half.

I was still numb the first Thanksgiving and Christmas. 2016 holidays were harder. Our house was and still is the gathering point for family and having them around is a great help. No major decisions is correct. I was never big on hugs but now I find they are very nice. Family members are good at getting me out of the house. I didn't want to go at first but over time I started to look forward to a night out. I think it is ok to say no too. I went to events that I knew I would not like but now I can decline an invitation and not worry it will be the last time I'm invited to go anywhere. Good to read you are eating. I have three friends that lost their wives in the last two years and when our paths cross I find we find quiet corners to see how things are going. That's as close to a support group I have and a common phrase is "good days and bad" I do feel better now but have an empty place in me that weighs a lot. Family and friends are your biggest asset use them liberally. Hope your path is smooth obstacle free and easy to find.