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greymattermom

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3. Depression can drive family members away.

Reply to luvMIdog (Original post)

Sun May 28, 2017, 02:50 PM

May 2017

My husband has this disease, and that's how he behaves, except that he's in assisted living. He doesn't shave and only showers when his caregivers insist on it. Sometimes the family tries to help for years. It's not always their fault.

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The old man across the road died- this isn't a lighthearted topic, but I didn't know where to put it [View all] luvMIdog May 2017 OP

Please remember you don't know the whole story Warpy May 2017 #1

Don't know what to say.. furtheradu May 2017 #2

Depression can drive family members away. greymattermom May 2017 #3

Did you or other neighbors visit or offer to help? The Velveteen Ocelot May 2017 #4

I tried several times to visit him but as I said he had a huge pack of giant dogs and I couldn't luvMIdog May 2017 #6

That would certainly be a problem. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2017 #7

they kind of vanished a few months before he died all at once. I don't know why or how luvMIdog May 2017 #8

Could be the reason his family didn't show up. n/t sarge43 May 2017 #15

if they couldn't call him definitely those dogs were really mean & more or less feral luvMIdog May 2017 #16

That's the saddest part of your story sarge43 May 2017 #17

I called and called about those dogs we don't have animal control out here :( luvMIdog May 2017 #18

You tried. Respect. n/t sarge43 May 2017 #19

I have to say, my MIL died recently, the kids hated her, but they did take care of her in the end. redstatebluegirl May 2017 #5

No matter what the situation was that led up to this.... Heartstrings May 2017 #9

yeah it just struck me as sad to end up all alone luvMIdog May 2017 #10

Maybe you'd be saying the same about me. politicat May 2017 #11

gee now I just feel like an ass LOL, but thanks for the interesting story & better perspective luvMIdog May 2017 #12

No... And you may be right. politicat May 2017 #13

yes, I actually shown have thought about it more. There are people on my step moms side that were luvMIdog May 2017 #14