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Sun May 28, 2017, 08:04 PM

May 2017

I am a young widow that became the caretaker to my extremely sick husband. In the end he came home to hospice and passed away while I held his hand in our living room. I miss him and love him so much. My life has been forever altered.

The last several months have been heartbreaking and sad, but I have managed to pull myself together. I am currently in the anger phase of my grief. It has been good for me to talk to strangers about him because I can really communicate what I am feeling inside.

I am only a PM away. I mean that sincerely.

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Mr. Tavernier passed away last Sunday. [View all] tavernier May 2017 OP

Sorry for your loss brucefan May 2017 #1

So very sorry for the loss of Mr. Tavernier. May he rest in peace. democratisphere May 2017 #2

Thank you for the invitation but tavernier May 2017 #9

I am so sorry. I dont have any experience in this sort of thing... samnsara May 2017 #3

May he cross gently... Cooley Hurd May 2017 #4

I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner May 2017 #5

Sending strength and comfort. NurseJackie May 2017 #6

He will be sorely missed, RIP tavernier. TexasProgresive May 2017 #7

Condolences to you and your family. gademocrat7 May 2017 #8

so very sorry, tavernier hlthe2b May 2017 #10

My deepest sympathies... WePurrsevere May 2017 #11

My experience iwillalwayswonderwhy May 2017 #12

Yes, lots of stuff to do presently. tavernier May 2017 #41

I am so very sorry for your loss Highway61 May 2017 #13

My mom was a trained bereavement counselor SticksnStones May 2017 #14

I'm so sorry. mountain grammy May 2017 #15

I am so sorry for your loss. bronxiteforever May 2017 #16

I'm so sorry, tavernier. femmocrat May 2017 #17

I am so sorry for your loss. yardwork May 2017 #18

You're lucky to have a large support group of friends & family. williesgirl May 2017 #19

Oh yeah, we've talked a lot already. tavernier May 2017 #42

I am sorry shenmue May 2017 #20

So sorry TuxedoKat May 2017 #21

So very sorry...have been there. WinstonSmith4740 May 2017 #22

Thank you... tavernier May 2017 #45

Oh, trust me on this one! WinstonSmith4740 May 2017 #46

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my partner 20 years ago to suicide. femmedem May 2017 #23

Ouch!! I've had friends that took their lives tavernier May 2017 #47

I'm so sorry for your loss Phoenix61 May 2017 #24

Thanks. Great advice. tavernier May 2017 #48

My Sweetheart and I Mme. Defarge May 2017 #25

You sound much like I think I will be. tavernier May 2017 #49

You'll find what works best for you Mme. Defarge May 2017 #53

I've been a member of audible since it started. tavernier May 2017 #55

I am so sorry, tavernier. kag May 2017 #69

I'm very sorry Mrs. Tavernier. n/t Greybnk48 May 2017 #26

My sincere MFM008 May 2017 #27

Far from uncommon. Ken Burch May 2017 #44

Exactly. MFM008 May 2017 #84

I am sorry for your loss. Else You Are Mad May 2017 #28

I am very sorry for your loss Justice May 2017 #29

Sorry for your loss orangecrush May 2017 #30

I am very sorry for your loss. Ilsa May 2017 #31

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Condolences to your family. He sinkingfeeling May 2017 #32

Condolences, take your time, reflect, may be do something in his name . This is what i lunasun May 2017 #33

Damn, much love to you and yours. denbot May 2017 #34

I am so sorry for your loss irisblue May 2017 #35

My condolences MrScorpio May 2017 #36

I am so very sorry for your loss! DU's bereavement GreenPartyVoter May 2017 #37

I am so sorry. Squinch May 2017 #38

I am so sorry for your loss of Mr. Tavernier. mnhtnbb May 2017 #39

Very good advice here indeed from wonderful folks. tavernier May 2017 #50

Remember DU will always have a place at the table... Historic NY May 2017 #86

So sorry for your loss n/t hibbing May 2017 #40

Been there(it was sudden, in '04) Ken Burch May 2017 #43

I will keep some pies around for the occasion. tavernier May 2017 #54

I am so sorry for your loss! hrmjustin May 2017 #51

You have my deepest sympathies... I wish you well. TheDebbieDee May 2017 #52

I'm so sorry for your loss. lunamagica May 2017 #56

I'm so very sorry, tavernier catbyte May 2017 #57

Thanks... tavernier May 2017 #58

Nineteen months today without my way better half. IADEMO2004 May 2017 #59

Thank you. tavernier May 2017 #63

I am so sorry for your loss, tavernier. sheshe2 May 2017 #60

I haven't been there, but my mom was. DFW May 2017 #61

I know what you mean. tavernier May 2017 #64

That sounds like a precious memory. Wishing you many more of those glimpses of comfort as JudyM May 2017 #68

I am so sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester May 2017 #62

Oh dear, KT2000 May 2017 #65

Aw thanks. I'm the poster. tavernier May 2017 #67

hugs love and stregth to you proud patriot May 2017 #66

So sorry for your loss. Solly Mack May 2017 #70

So very sorry. Maybe reach out to Du'er annabanana. I believe she can help you... Phentex May 2017 #71

Lost y husband ten years ago, he was 61, I was 51. Still miss him every day. Still cry notdarkyet May 2017 #72

Best friend Rorey Jun 2017 #100

I am so sorry. GoCubsGo May 2017 #73

I was widowed after 35 years in 2012. PinkTiger May 2017 #74

I've heard "go slow" tavernier May 2017 #76

I'm freely willing to admit PinkTiger Jun 2017 #95

You've been very generous tavernier Jun 2017 #96

You are so right! Rorey Jun 2017 #99

You have my deepest sympathy Marthe48 May 2017 #75

... tavernier May 2017 #78

I'm sorry for your loss.. CentralMass May 2017 #77

I am so sorry for your loss. My condolence to you and your family..nt jrthin May 2017 #79

... Cha May 2017 #80

Very individual DownriverDem May 2017 #81

Oh yeah, holidays. tavernier May 2017 #83

The second year holidays can also be difficult Rorey Jun 2017 #101

I'm so sorry for your loss. Healing will come as long as you stay loving Maraya1969 May 2017 #82

Very sorry this has happened AwakeAtLast May 2017 #85

I am so very sorry! Rhiannon12866 May 2017 #87

I'm so sorry LeftInTX May 2017 #88

Thinking of you at this time. Glad you have a great support system. applegrove May 2017 #89

Strong memories. sellitman May 2017 #90

... SammyWinstonJack May 2017 #91

I am so sorry for your loss. Texasgal May 2017 #92

I appreciate your generosity. tavernier May 2017 #93

Please feel free. Texasgal May 2017 #94

Sorry for your loss Stuart G Jun 2017 #97

I was a widow at 38 Rorey Jun 2017 #98

So sorry you lost your spouse pandr32 Jun 2017 #102

What can we say except our thoughts are with you. You are very lucky OregonBlue Jun 2017 #103

I'm so sorry for your loss NewJeffCT Jun 2017 #104