The DU Lounge

pandr32

(14,307 posts)

102. So sorry you lost your spouse

Fri Jun 2, 2017, 12:25 PM

Jun 2017

It is a fear for many of us.
One of the things I can think to suggest is to create a journal and write about Mr. Tavernier and your relationship. Writing about your grief may help because it is an outlet that you can pour as much of your feelings into as you wish. In the end you will have something special, but can add to it always.
Another thing to think about is taking a trip to break your routine. Take in new culture, new sights, new people.
Best to you.

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

104 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

Mr. Tavernier passed away last Sunday. [View all] tavernier May 2017 OP

Sorry for your loss brucefan May 2017 #1

So very sorry for the loss of Mr. Tavernier. May he rest in peace. democratisphere May 2017 #2

Thank you for the invitation but tavernier May 2017 #9

I am so sorry. I dont have any experience in this sort of thing... samnsara May 2017 #3

May he cross gently... Cooley Hurd May 2017 #4

I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner May 2017 #5

Sending strength and comfort. NurseJackie May 2017 #6

He will be sorely missed, RIP tavernier. TexasProgresive May 2017 #7

Condolences to you and your family. gademocrat7 May 2017 #8

so very sorry, tavernier hlthe2b May 2017 #10

My deepest sympathies... WePurrsevere May 2017 #11

My experience iwillalwayswonderwhy May 2017 #12

Yes, lots of stuff to do presently. tavernier May 2017 #41

I am so very sorry for your loss Highway61 May 2017 #13

My mom was a trained bereavement counselor SticksnStones May 2017 #14

I'm so sorry. mountain grammy May 2017 #15

I am so sorry for your loss. bronxiteforever May 2017 #16

I'm so sorry, tavernier. femmocrat May 2017 #17

I am so sorry for your loss. yardwork May 2017 #18

You're lucky to have a large support group of friends & family. williesgirl May 2017 #19

Oh yeah, we've talked a lot already. tavernier May 2017 #42

I am sorry shenmue May 2017 #20

So sorry TuxedoKat May 2017 #21

So very sorry...have been there. WinstonSmith4740 May 2017 #22

Thank you... tavernier May 2017 #45

Oh, trust me on this one! WinstonSmith4740 May 2017 #46

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my partner 20 years ago to suicide. femmedem May 2017 #23

Ouch!! I've had friends that took their lives tavernier May 2017 #47

I'm so sorry for your loss Phoenix61 May 2017 #24

Thanks. Great advice. tavernier May 2017 #48

My Sweetheart and I Mme. Defarge May 2017 #25

You sound much like I think I will be. tavernier May 2017 #49

You'll find what works best for you Mme. Defarge May 2017 #53

I've been a member of audible since it started. tavernier May 2017 #55

I am so sorry, tavernier. kag May 2017 #69

I'm very sorry Mrs. Tavernier. n/t Greybnk48 May 2017 #26

My sincere MFM008 May 2017 #27

Far from uncommon. Ken Burch May 2017 #44

Exactly. MFM008 May 2017 #84

I am sorry for your loss. Else You Are Mad May 2017 #28

I am very sorry for your loss Justice May 2017 #29

Sorry for your loss orangecrush May 2017 #30

I am very sorry for your loss. Ilsa May 2017 #31

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Condolences to your family. He sinkingfeeling May 2017 #32

Condolences, take your time, reflect, may be do something in his name . This is what i lunasun May 2017 #33

Damn, much love to you and yours. denbot May 2017 #34

I am so sorry for your loss irisblue May 2017 #35

My condolences MrScorpio May 2017 #36

I am so very sorry for your loss! DU's bereavement GreenPartyVoter May 2017 #37

I am so sorry. Squinch May 2017 #38

I am so sorry for your loss of Mr. Tavernier. mnhtnbb May 2017 #39

Very good advice here indeed from wonderful folks. tavernier May 2017 #50

Remember DU will always have a place at the table... Historic NY May 2017 #86

So sorry for your loss n/t hibbing May 2017 #40

Been there(it was sudden, in '04) Ken Burch May 2017 #43

I will keep some pies around for the occasion. tavernier May 2017 #54

I am so sorry for your loss! hrmjustin May 2017 #51

You have my deepest sympathies... I wish you well. TheDebbieDee May 2017 #52

I'm so sorry for your loss. lunamagica May 2017 #56

I'm so very sorry, tavernier catbyte May 2017 #57

Thanks... tavernier May 2017 #58

Nineteen months today without my way better half. IADEMO2004 May 2017 #59

Thank you. tavernier May 2017 #63

I am so sorry for your loss, tavernier. sheshe2 May 2017 #60

I haven't been there, but my mom was. DFW May 2017 #61

I know what you mean. tavernier May 2017 #64

That sounds like a precious memory. Wishing you many more of those glimpses of comfort as JudyM May 2017 #68

I am so sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester May 2017 #62

Oh dear, KT2000 May 2017 #65

Aw thanks. I'm the poster. tavernier May 2017 #67

hugs love and stregth to you proud patriot May 2017 #66

So sorry for your loss. Solly Mack May 2017 #70

So very sorry. Maybe reach out to Du'er annabanana. I believe she can help you... Phentex May 2017 #71

Lost y husband ten years ago, he was 61, I was 51. Still miss him every day. Still cry notdarkyet May 2017 #72

Best friend Rorey Jun 2017 #100

I am so sorry. GoCubsGo May 2017 #73

I was widowed after 35 years in 2012. PinkTiger May 2017 #74

I've heard "go slow" tavernier May 2017 #76

I'm freely willing to admit PinkTiger Jun 2017 #95

You've been very generous tavernier Jun 2017 #96

You are so right! Rorey Jun 2017 #99

You have my deepest sympathy Marthe48 May 2017 #75

... tavernier May 2017 #78

I'm sorry for your loss.. CentralMass May 2017 #77

I am so sorry for your loss. My condolence to you and your family..nt jrthin May 2017 #79

... Cha May 2017 #80

Very individual DownriverDem May 2017 #81

Oh yeah, holidays. tavernier May 2017 #83

The second year holidays can also be difficult Rorey Jun 2017 #101

I'm so sorry for your loss. Healing will come as long as you stay loving Maraya1969 May 2017 #82

Very sorry this has happened AwakeAtLast May 2017 #85

I am so very sorry! Rhiannon12866 May 2017 #87

I'm so sorry LeftInTX May 2017 #88

Thinking of you at this time. Glad you have a great support system. applegrove May 2017 #89

Strong memories. sellitman May 2017 #90

... SammyWinstonJack May 2017 #91

I am so sorry for your loss. Texasgal May 2017 #92

I appreciate your generosity. tavernier May 2017 #93

Please feel free. Texasgal May 2017 #94

Sorry for your loss Stuart G Jun 2017 #97

I was a widow at 38 Rorey Jun 2017 #98

So sorry you lost your spouse pandr32 Jun 2017 #102

What can we say except our thoughts are with you. You are very lucky OregonBlue Jun 2017 #103

I'm so sorry for your loss NewJeffCT Jun 2017 #104