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In reply to the discussion: I hate the dog [View all]Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)That shows what you think about trying hard to have a happy life with your pet.
Your pet is reacting to that attitude. That says it all.
If you love dogs, you know that there is no such thing as an unloveable dog.
That you've "had dogs" before that tolerated you better means nothing. You have a puppy mill dog, so you have a dog that needed work. One of my dogs attacked my other dog recently for no reason. I was very upset. He could've seriously hurt the smaller dog. But after reading up about companion dogs fighting and attacking each other, and stepping back to think on it a lot, and paying closer attention to them, I realized that my dog did not attack the other one for no reason. She was just reacting to something that I had not noticed and taken care of. In other words, it was my fault. I have read up on the issue and taken steps to resolve the issue. So far, things are working out well.
I suggest you stick to cats. They have fewer needs, which apparently suits you better.
BTW....no, "dominant" is not what you want to be with your pet dog. You want to be the top dog, in his eyes, the alpha. But a pack is a family, and families work together toward a common goal. If you think your dog spites you, btw, he most certainly doesn't view you as the pack leader. Unless he's scared of you. That's a reason a dog will pee or poop at odd times, in odd places. I would interested in hearing what you're saying to the dog right before he "spite poops," and your tone of voice afterward.
Psychology does no good with dogs. That's for humans. You're projecting again.