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In reply to the discussion: I hate the dog [View all]Amerigo Vespucci
(30,885 posts)There might be a few people here who are familiar with my posts on my cat, Seiko.
I got her in 2001, after I'd gone through an appropriate period of grieving over my two cats, Zorro and Weasel (they lived to a ripe old age of 15 each, and died within a few months of each other from age-related illnesses).
Seiko "can be" very loving, but she can also be very aloof. She NEVER gets on me. Zorro and Weasel used to press themselves right up against me. Seiko keeps a distance of arm's length. She loves to be groomed, she loves affection...but only on her terms, and only when she wants it.
I think about the scrifices I have made to keep her over the course of five moves in ten years. I think about the cost of cat food. I think about cleaning her box every day. I think about trips to the vet. And when you put what I get in return from her on the scale with what I got in return from Zorro and Weasel, it just doesn't balance out.
But she is who she is, and I took responsibility for her, and I will remain responsible for as long as she is alive.
Sometimes I have a bad day and I remember when Zorro and / or Weasel would sense that and get right up on me and purr like a motorboat. I miss that. I may live long enough to have other cats after Seiko lives out her natural lifespan. Until then, I rolled the dice, and she's what came up.