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Sun Aug 20, 2017, 12:28 PM

Aug 2017

It'll be fun dismantling and remantling the computer...NOT...

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hubby and I are planning to go into Assisted Living. [View all] CTyankee Aug 2017 OP

I do wish you luck and hope very sincerely that you will be happy katmondoo Aug 2017 #1

That's wonderful for you. As you may know, there are potential consequences. erronis Aug 2017 #60

Hope all goes well left-of-center2012 Aug 2017 #2

eBay is a good idea. CTyankee Aug 2017 #4

Be VERY careful if you hire someone fir an estate sale Lochloosa Aug 2017 #18

How do you find someone reputable? moonscape Aug 2017 #66

First, find a reputable full service realtor Sedona Aug 2017 #83

I did some research to find a good article on estate sales. Lochloosa Aug 2017 #141

I agree. bucolic_frolic Aug 2017 #79

Moving is overwhelming at 30...and only gets more difficult with each passing year. angstlessk Aug 2017 #3

I Wish I Lived Closer TheOther95Percent Aug 2017 #5

We're in our mid 70s and are looking to downsize. We're both in fairly good health and no problems shraby Aug 2017 #6

I just read the other day we spend 2/3 of our life collecting stuff... Freedomofspeech Aug 2017 #7

I've been thinking about this a lot lately... Phentex Aug 2017 #11

My dad just told me has been going through all the family photos and dividing them MLAA Aug 2017 #33

I want to do this for my kids plus Phentex Aug 2017 #39

My Dad talked about doing that but never did csziggy Aug 2017 #106

when my husband's mother died, he got a lot of things that are dear to him. CTyankee Aug 2017 #14

I can relate. I'm in the midst of a purge and it's rugged emotionally moonscape Aug 2017 #71

i'm 37 crazycatlady Aug 2017 #89

Good luck. In years I'm not that far behind you. Lint Head Aug 2017 #8

I salute you - we did this with my Mother ten years ago. DUgosh Aug 2017 #9

It's a chore. I helped clear out my sister's house of 43 years last sinkingfeeling Aug 2017 #10

When I took a tour for one place, they said you can hire people to downsize CTyankee Aug 2017 #19

I have a friend in CA who does estate sales. redwitch Aug 2017 #152

Don't know what your time frame is Phentex Aug 2017 #12

At our age, we kinda have to go... CTyankee Aug 2017 #15

Take the heirlooms and art with you. progressoid Aug 2017 #13

who are dorothy and herbert vogel? CTyankee Aug 2017 #16

Some of their collection came though the mid-west when I was in art school in the 80's progressoid Aug 2017 #21

My art isn't like that, of course. CTyankee Aug 2017 #24

Ours isn't either. progressoid Aug 2017 #26

tell me about it. CTyankee Aug 2017 #31

I think walls are prime real estate blaze Aug 2017 #113

Check the prices of your movie posters..you may be surprised. n/t dixiegrrrrl Aug 2017 #64

I have one of the movie "Fellini's Roma." My ex husband collected old movie CTyankee Aug 2017 #93

Wow!!! BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2017 #50

Also, consider taking pictures of everything to document it. forgotmylogin Aug 2017 #48

You can do this with photos, too. fierywoman Aug 2017 #52

You might be surprised TexasBushwhacker Aug 2017 #17

Oh, I am all for it! CTyankee Aug 2017 #20

I hope you get all the help you need to handle the process! BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2017 #53

Oh, I hope so, too. CTyankee Aug 2017 #65

:) BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2017 #76

My tour guide suggested that I come to lunch and chat with the people there. CTyankee Aug 2017 #94

See for yourself! catchnrelease Aug 2017 #119

My 94 year old mother lives in a place that has wonderful food. LuckyLib Aug 2017 #123

We went through this recently with my mother. LuckyLib Aug 2017 #124

when I have selected a facility I will tell them to work out a date good for all. CTyankee Aug 2017 #143

Then go yourself, if you can. BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2017 #128

Best of luck - we helped my mom with this after my dad passed, about 10 years ago. NRaleighLiberal Aug 2017 #22

Thank you. CTyankee Aug 2017 #25

Definitely best wishes to you and your husband. barbtries Aug 2017 #23

One daughter will fly from Los Angeles where she lives to New Haven. CTyankee Aug 2017 #27

I live in Sherborn, MA too sweetroxie Aug 2017 #91

Then you might know them. I'll pm you with their names and kids names. CTyankee Aug 2017 #95

BEST of luck on this adventure, yank, and remember to elleng Aug 2017 #28

Hi, ellen! CTyankee Aug 2017 #32

I 'downsized' when I left my/our home elleng Aug 2017 #38

Yes that riverside house looks like a lovely spot! CTyankee Aug 2017 #63

Oh my, cilla4progress Aug 2017 #29

Thanks. CTyankee Aug 2017 #34

Good luck! H2O Man Aug 2017 #30

thanks H2O Man! CTyankee Aug 2017 #36

Best wishes as you and your husband embark on this new adventure! MLAA Aug 2017 #35

thank you! CTyankee Aug 2017 #37

Best of luck to you! It's a tough move to make and even more difficult mnhtnbb Aug 2017 #40

I wish you all the best, you are very courageous recognizing what is necessary still_one Aug 2017 #41

One of my jobs is helping elderly people downside and then move them into assisted living kimbutgar Aug 2017 #42

Have you helped folks out with estate sales? CTyankee Aug 2017 #68

No but there are businesses all over the country that can help you with that kimbutgar Aug 2017 #78

I just looked at that website. CTyankee Aug 2017 #98

Wow. I sure don't envy you. We are both getting older and need to downsize but every time I look OregonBlue Aug 2017 #43

Yes, try to look at it as a new adventure... LakeArenal Aug 2017 #44

I was my mother's caregiver through 8 years of dementia. She passed in May. Trust Buster Aug 2017 #45

I had to move and downsize recently. Here's what I learned: fierywoman Aug 2017 #58

Great tips! Phentex Aug 2017 #75

I agree, MK is sometimes cray-cray! But the spark joy thing has helped a lot. fierywoman Aug 2017 #96

Lots of things I really need to keep around, PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2017 #127

Have you used those toothbrushes in the last 2, 5, 10 years? TexasTowelie Aug 2017 #131

I replace them periodically. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2017 #137

Having healthy teeth sparks joy to me! fierywoman Aug 2017 #144

Good luck! I've been there, done that and it isn't a piece of cake. Frustratedlady Aug 2017 #46

What you're doing now is in the future, near or not-so-near, for many of us. TygrBright Aug 2017 #47

I will certainly do that... CTyankee Aug 2017 #99

My very best wishes, CTyankee. femmocrat Aug 2017 #49

Downsizing is so difficult at any age. MontanaMama Aug 2017 #51

Best wishes to you! n/t PoliticAverse Aug 2017 #54

Hope you find just the right place for you both. TNNurse Aug 2017 #55

Well If I mightr suggest whistler162 Aug 2017 #56

We downsized our house last year. Mr.Bill Aug 2017 #57

Assisted Living apkhgp Aug 2017 #59

We spend so much of our lives PatSeg Aug 2017 #61

For some reason I'm an oddball. llmart Aug 2017 #118

I never acquired many possessions either PatSeg Aug 2017 #130

I'm finding this thread very helpful. Thank you for sharing your story. nt AnotherMother4Peace Aug 2017 #62

I was the director lillypaddle Aug 2017 #67

Good for you extvbroadcaster Aug 2017 #69

Be thankful you have help bucolic_frolic Aug 2017 #70

Best of luck! snowybirdie Aug 2017 #72

Prayers and strength to you and yours benld74 Aug 2017 #73

Could the VA help you now with home health help etc? nini Aug 2017 #74

Wishing you the best! volstork Aug 2017 #77

Give it all away to your helpful and generous kids tavernier Aug 2017 #80

You are wished luck in your endeavor.......and may I suggest some heavy duty drugs!!!! a kennedy Aug 2017 #81

We did an assisted living MFM008 Aug 2017 #82

Good luck. I hope you and your husband both spend a long, happy time in assisted living. Jim__ Aug 2017 #84

Are you sure you want to jump right into assisted living? SaveOurDemocracy Aug 2017 #85

Have you looked at renting the house rather than selling it as a source of extra income? cstanleytech Aug 2017 #86

That's an idea...BUT I would still have to be responsible for say, having repair CTyankee Aug 2017 #100

True but such repairs are tax deductible if I recall for rentals. cstanleytech Aug 2017 #105

Oh my! That has to be a biggie! longship Aug 2017 #87

Wishing you and your husband all the best, CTyankee. democrank Aug 2017 #88

I found myself in the same place..12 years ago - the yard and house asiliveandbreathe Aug 2017 #90

A small suggestion crazycatlady Aug 2017 #92

You are wise to downsize, wishing you great success! peacebuzzard Aug 2017 #97

let's ask the important question Skittles Aug 2017 #101

Of course! They have a computer available there but I want to keep mine. CTyankee Aug 2017 #103

Laptop? If not then might be time to switch to one and get a smaller desk with enough cstanleytech Aug 2017 #107

get a laptop and a smaller desk Skittles Aug 2017 #110

Thinking of you both! Solly Mack Aug 2017 #102

Thaks, Solly. CTyankee Aug 2017 #104

I would also look at 55 plus communities iamateacher Aug 2017 #108

thanks for your help! CTyankee Aug 2017 #109

My parents moved into an assisted living place and it was immediately home for us kids. applegrove Aug 2017 #111

All the very best to you both Hekate Aug 2017 #112

I wish you luck, and hope for a complete recovery for your hub. PatrickforO Aug 2017 #114

Yours is the hardest of transitions Eyeball_Kid Aug 2017 #115

Best of luck to both of you. LeftInTX Aug 2017 #116

Good luck. It very much sounds like the right move for you. CousinIT Aug 2017 #117

Love to you both. You're off on another one of life's adventures. mia Aug 2017 #120

Best of fortune to you CTyankee PufPuf23 Aug 2017 #121

I'm so glad your kids are going to help radical noodle Aug 2017 #122

Best of luck cate94 Aug 2017 #125

I hope you can stay in touch Omaha Steve Aug 2017 #126

Good for you. This is a difficult transition. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2017 #129

Is it possible to instead hire someone to come stay with you for a few months and help out? Liberty Belle Aug 2017 #132

Assisted Living - some things to keep in mind from a 911 dispatcher... the_sly_pig Aug 2017 #133

Good luck Denis 11 Aug 2017 #134

How much control of your finances do you retain, and how much control does the facility obtain? WinkyDink Aug 2017 #135

Scaling down pamdb Aug 2017 #136

Yeah, start a plan now... CTyankee Aug 2017 #147

I wish you the very best Highway61 Aug 2017 #138

My Father in Law edhopper Aug 2017 #139

The pictures and art on the walls are the worst to let go DFW Aug 2017 #140

My 3 kids will come and take what they want and get a dumpster for the stuff I CTyankee Aug 2017 #145

Thank goodness my folks 'disposed of' their art works, elleng Aug 2017 #154

I wish you the best in this situation. Texin Aug 2017 #142

We still have mortgage payments and I will call the bank and see how much is CTyankee Aug 2017 #146

my heart onethatcares Aug 2017 #148

thank you. It's a long road to walk... CTyankee Aug 2017 #149

Did you think in 2004 when you joined DU some day you'd be writing a post Fla Dem Aug 2017 #150

It's all good Faux pas Aug 2017 #151

My mom and dad moved across the country to live with my sister because of a similar situation Freethinker65 Aug 2017 #153

Good luck! You'll do great with much less burden lunatica Aug 2017 #155

best wishes to you both in your big transition :) nt steve2470 Aug 2017 #156