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LastLiberal in PalmSprings

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3. One suggestion: Al-Anon

Tue Aug 29, 2017, 11:55 AM

Aug 2017

It's a 12 Step program for family and friends of alcoholics. Practicing its principles allows you to "detach with love" and be able to choose the course of action you want to take concerning your girlfriend's son. They won't tell you what to do, just give you "tools" to use in clearing your mind. Members of each meeting share their experience, strength and hope concerning problems like yours.

The cost is a couple of dollars a meeting, which is used for rent, coffee, etc.

The website for the main office is www.al-anon.org. You can find local meetings by searching the name of your town or city plus "Al-Anon"

They suggest you attend six meetings in a row before you decide whether to continue on. If you don't, they will cheerfully refund your misery.

Good luck.

p.s. Here's the South Carolina Al-Anon website, which includes a meeting list: http://www.al-anon-sc.org/

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1.4 blood alcohol and GHB [View all] Miles Archer Aug 2017 OP

Is your girlfriend going to cover it? Help them find somewhere else? bettyellen Aug 2017 #1

I presume you meant 0.14 zipplewrath Aug 2017 #2

She said 1.4, she could have been wrong Miles Archer Aug 2017 #6

Percentage zipplewrath Aug 2017 #9

1.4 sounds like he had a little blood in his alcohol stream........ lastlib Aug 2017 #31

1.48 was the highest BAC ever recorded, so this was probably 0.14. The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2017 #8

He's been here twice Miles Archer Aug 2017 #11

Good luck to you. The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2017 #16

Thank you Miles Archer Aug 2017 #17

One suggestion: Al-Anon LastLiberal in PalmSprings Aug 2017 #3

How many psychologists does it take to change a lightbulb? Pope George Ringo II Aug 2017 #10

Al Anon is for friends and family of addicts and alcoholics Warpy Aug 2017 #26

And until the drunk wants to go Pope George Ringo II Aug 2017 #27

The drunk stops being the focus of everybody else's life Warpy Aug 2017 #28

I don't actually take twelve-step programs very seriously. A little, but not very. Pope George Ringo II Aug 2017 #29

Of course you don't Warpy Aug 2017 #30

Thank you for understanding that. Al-Anon doesn't "fix" the alcoholic/addict LastLiberal in PalmSprings Aug 2017 #33

That is an excellent idea Rhiannon12866 Aug 2017 #32

He may want to buy a Blood alcohol device Cicada Aug 2017 #4

Have you thought of finding a place of your own? AJT Aug 2017 #5

It's on the horizon Miles Archer Aug 2017 #7

Is she retired? She may have to find part-time work. AJT Aug 2017 #12

I don't know what she's going to do. Miles Archer Aug 2017 #13

I'm curious, are you supporting her? AJT Aug 2017 #14

Yes and yes Miles Archer Aug 2017 #15

Stay strong. You have every right to some inner peace. AJT Aug 2017 #18

Stay strong, but sometimes the toughest decisions are the best. Fla Dem Aug 2017 #21

She's already siding with him without an ultimatum Miles Archer Aug 2017 #22

I had a similar experience with the minister at my girlfriend's church. LastLiberal in PalmSprings Aug 2017 #34

I'm confused Skittles Aug 2017 #35

My girlfriend. Her son moved in, with his girlfriend, her 4-year old, and a their dog Miles Archer Aug 2017 #37

what is her work history? Skittles Aug 2017 #36

She hasn't worked for a while. Miles Archer Aug 2017 #38

I just want to say how sorry I am that Ilsa Aug 2017 #19

I want to tag along here... Phentex Aug 2017 #20

Thank you Phentex Miles Archer Aug 2017 #23

What Phenta and Ilsa said. raven mad Sep 2017 #39

Thank you...taking care of myself has been a challenge under this roof. Miles Archer Aug 2017 #24

We will continue to hope for the best for you. Ilsa Aug 2017 #25