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In reply to the discussion: 1.4 blood alcohol and GHB [View all]Miles Archer
(24,818 posts)That's why I have one foot out the door.
The last time he was here, I sat down with the local pastor. He said "She's never going to change, she will always side with her kids, they'll always be showing up at the door, you need to leave and not look back, because when you do, she will be crying and trying to lay guilt on you, and if you let that sway you, nothing will change."
I believed him at the time. I really believe him now.
All that's standing between me and leaving is a new (probably rebuilt) transmission, a new battery, and a fluid changes (car has been down for a while because of the expense). Then it's first month's / last month's rent, security deposit, utilities...it is going to take a while to stockpile all of that cash. But I have found in my life that when I have to do something, I rise to the occasion. I gave her the benefit of doubt. It is only getting worse on a daily basis and my physical and mental health are suffering.
A week before he got arrested, he and the girlfriend got into a drunken yelling match in our house. I called the sheriff, she went to jail for the night. If my girlfriend had put the fear of God in them the next day, the second incident may or may not have happened. I am fully prepared to go downtown and start eviction proceedings. My girlfriend would have to file the papers because she is the homeowner. That will never happen because "they have no place to go."
House is on fire, I see the exits.