Watching "Lost In Space" in the bedroom with my girlfriend. Car lights. It was the cops.

[Nay]

27. I'm afraid you may have to use the nuclear option. I wouldn't discuss her

son/his girlfriend any more, but I would give your girlfriend notice that you need to move out just for your own mental health. I would emphasize that I still loved her and wanted to see her regularly, but that you no longer can handle the rent, cops, etc., for everyone. I would be gentle and courteous about it, but I'd do that. It is certainly her prerogative to do what she feels she needs to do, but you don't have to suffer. And you shouldn't be paying for all this either.

I had an experience similar to this when my husband's son from his first marriage stayed with us for 6 months, girlfriend and all. What a mess! Believe me, it never gets better until something changes their mindset. In my stepson's case, nothing ever did. He's 43 yrs old.

P.S. I see that you are somewhat trapped financially. Hmm. Can you get a personal loan on your signature? Get a part-time job for a while? Stop paying for the stepson's electric?