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sarge43

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23. The sudden death of someone you love is like being struck by lighting.

Wed Oct 18, 2017, 12:03 PM

Oct 2017

You can't prepare for it and it's shattering. No one can really know how it feels until it happens to them. We all feel it differently.

Right now the only useful words you can hear or read are "Can I help?"

Friends and family are reaching out to you; reach back. Just knowing you're not alone will help.

You will find the light again. Peace and comfort.

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My husband died Friday night. [View all] zanana1 Oct 2017 OP

So sorry zanana1. My heart goes out to you. Fla Dem Oct 2017 #1

So many in pain now... My cousin (like a sister to me) just lost her spouse too hlthe2b Oct 2017 #2

So sorry for your loss. SCLumbeelady Oct 2017 #3

Deepest sympathy. Scarsdale Oct 2017 #80

So sorry to hear that joeybee12 Oct 2017 #4

I'm so sorry, Zanana.. whathehell Oct 2017 #5

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts. Arkansas Granny Oct 2017 #6

the greatest loss, plus the surprising shock. I am sending you comfort. MLAA Oct 2017 #7

I can't imagine what you are going through. I have been married a long time too and fortuntely we OregonBlue Oct 2017 #8

wow, I'm so sorry for your loss NewJeffCT Oct 2017 #9

I am so sorry Freddie Oct 2017 #10

My condolences padah513 Oct 2017 #11

Sorry for your loss Stuart G Oct 2017 #12

My condolences for your loss SonofDonald Oct 2017 #13

I'm so very sorry for your loss. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2017 #14

zanana1, I am so sorry for your loss. raven mad Oct 2017 #15

I am so sorry for your loss kimbutgar Oct 2017 #16

Hi zanana1, I have lost a husband just onecent Oct 2017 #17

Sorry for your loss. N_E_1 for Tennis Oct 2017 #18

Sending you love and support zanana. cilla4progress Oct 2017 #19

I am SO SO sorry broadcaster90210 Oct 2017 #20

My. Husband of 26 years died after two weeks in the hospital. He had metastasized notdarkyet Oct 2017 #21

I'm so sorry you're in such pain. It's got to feel like your whole world just ended. n/t TygrBright Oct 2017 #22

The sudden death of someone you love is like being struck by lighting. sarge43 Oct 2017 #23

I am so sorry for your loss n/t Greywing Oct 2017 #24

I am so sorry. What a shock. mnhtnbb Oct 2017 #25

My heart goes to you and yours. Doreen Oct 2017 #26

May you.. LakeArenal Oct 2017 #27

There is a bereavement support forum on DU. milestogo Oct 2017 #28

link here steve2470 Oct 2017 #55

My dad died on 9- 11- 2000 MFM008 Oct 2017 #29

My condolences Sanity Claws Oct 2017 #30

I'm glad you know you have a source of support here True Dough Oct 2017 #31

My heartfelt condolences and thoughts are with you at this time. Take care still_one Oct 2017 #32

I had a good friend and coworker who died 2 years ago of a sudden heart attack. Initech Oct 2017 #33

So sorry zanana1---38 years is a long time. panader0 Oct 2017 #34

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Suddenly losing your life's mate is really sad. sinkingfeeling Oct 2017 #35

My condolence's to you gopiscrap Oct 2017 #36

Zanana I have not been through it but went through it with a friend. redstatebluegirl Oct 2017 #37

I am so sorry. The world has been pulled out from under your feet renate Oct 2017 #38

I'm so sorry for your loss Bettie Oct 2017 #39

My friend lost her husband when a car hit him crossing the street lunasun Oct 2017 #40

................. steve2470 Oct 2017 #41

I'm so sorry you are going through this lunamagica Oct 2017 #42

I am so sorry for your pain and your very deep loss. One thing that helped me Tanuki Oct 2017 #43

My deepest condolences for your tragic loss Moostache Oct 2017 #44

My daughter lost her husband of only murielm99 Oct 2017 #45

I'm so sorry for your loss. Delmette2.0 Oct 2017 #46

The pain of his loss must be unbearable lillypaddle Oct 2017 #47

{{{ZANANA1}}} 2014. My husband died after a short illness (4 months), two days before our 41st WinkyDink Oct 2017 #48

I can really relate to that... zanana1 Oct 2017 #74

You are welcome. Any time. WinkyDink Oct 2017 #89

I'm so sorry LeftInTX Oct 2017 #49

I lost my wife of 14 years to pneumonia. littlebit Oct 2017 #50

{{{littlebit}}} WinkyDink Oct 2017 #90

feel free to come here during your grief, our Mental Health Support group steve2470 Oct 2017 #51

I'm so very sorry. I also lost my husband. sweetroxie Oct 2017 #52

I am very sorry for your loss. RelativelyJones Oct 2017 #53

So sorry for your sudden loss pandr32 Oct 2017 #54

Oh my. I know the feeling all too well. My husband of 25 years died of a heart attack 13 years ago japple Oct 2017 #56

My husband died suddenly..... CatMor Oct 2017 #57

I am so sorry for your loss. Ilsa Oct 2017 #58

This message was self-deleted by its author PinkTiger Oct 2017 #59

I'm so sorry for your loss meow2u3 Oct 2017 #60

I am so very sorry for your loss. no words, but your DU family is here for you. niyad Oct 2017 #61

Oh no. I am truly sorry. LuckyCharms Oct 2017 #62

My condolences zanana1. denbot Oct 2017 #63

I am so sorry for your great loss. irisblue Oct 2017 #64

I am so sorry. n/t AirmensMom Oct 2017 #65

I was sixteen when my mom died of cancer. kag Oct 2017 #66

I am so sorry for your loss. hamsterjill Oct 2017 #67

my heartfelt condolences To you Zanana syringis Oct 2017 #68

My husband died a year ago spinbaby Oct 2017 #69

What spinbaby said. 🔼 Duppers Oct 2017 #71

Very sorry for your loss. So very tragic for you and your family. Fla Dem Oct 2017 #118

Vibes to you and family. applegrove Oct 2017 #70

So very sorry. Duppers Oct 2017 #72

So sorry....... peacebuzzard Oct 2017 #73

Thank you, my DU family. zanana1 Oct 2017 #75

I'm so sorry for your loss. mountain grammy Oct 2017 #76

Almost a year... agingdem Oct 2017 #77

Here's my advise... agingdem Oct 2017 #83

The same thing happened to my husband.... chillfactor Oct 2017 #78

I'm so sorry zanana Maraya1969 Oct 2017 #79

You have my condolences, sorry for you loss SummerSnow Oct 2017 #81

Memory eternal shenmue Oct 2017 #82

Tears for you zanana1. IADEMO2004 Oct 2017 #84

Im very sorry for your loss. yardwork Oct 2017 #85

So sorry for your loss JDC Oct 2017 #86

Oh, I'm so very sorry, zanana1. I lost my husband & best friend of 30 years on 12/17/14, so catbyte Oct 2017 #87

38 years is a damn long time. mopinko Oct 2017 #88

i am so very sorry...... samnsara Oct 2017 #91

My condolences zanana1 TxDemChem Oct 2017 #92

I'm sorry. Hamlette Oct 2017 #93

I'm so sorry for your loss jimlup Oct 2017 #94

My husband died suddenly from a heart attack rhiannon55 Oct 2017 #95

So sorry MaryMagdaline Oct 2017 #96

I am so sorry. Lifelong Protester Oct 2017 #97

Oh no! Texasgal Oct 2017 #98

I'm so very sorry for your loss MrScorpio Oct 2017 #99

My significant Other of 30 years died unexpectly in her sleep two years ago. mackdaddy Oct 2017 #100

Time heals Roy Rolling Oct 2017 #101

zanana1, I'm so sorry. badhair77 Oct 2017 #102

I am so sorry, zanana1. You should maybe find a support group of people who have gone through such tblue37 Oct 2017 #103

Mine was so close to death, that I now know that I will cry over losing him every damn day. ancianita Oct 2017 #104

I'm sorry to hear that, zanana1. GallopingGhost Oct 2017 #105

My sister and mother lost their spouses of many years. Lint Head Oct 2017 #106

Dearest zanana1 annabanana Oct 2017 #107

Love and peace to you. Freedomofspeech Oct 2017 #108

I am so sorry sharedvalues Oct 2017 #109

I'm so sorry. Which seems like such a lame thing to say in the face of what has happened to you, Squinch Oct 2017 #110

I wish I learned something that would help when my wife of 20 years passed Hoyt Oct 2017 #111

Lost my wife of 56 years tiredtoo Oct 2017 #112

So, so sorry... sending BIG virtual hugz... hope you eventually find peace and comfort. InAbLuEsTaTe Oct 2017 #113

My deepest condolences for your loss. (eom) StevieM Oct 2017 #114

... Skittles Oct 2017 #115

Very sorry. I lost my best friend to AIDS & many othes I have loved Alice11111 Oct 2017 #116

So very sorry, zanana1. Granny M Oct 2017 #117

I am so so sorry, zanana1. femmocrat Oct 2017 #119

I'm so sorry... Phentex Oct 2017 #120

Why don't you tell us something about him? Ligyron Oct 2017 #121