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7. Write them an IOU

Fri Dec 16, 2011, 10:30 PM

Dec 2011

IOU a couple hours of house cleaning, driving you to the supermarket/dentist/doctor, a picnic lunch in the park come warmer weather, well you get the pic. My dad is 88 and he's been widowed going on 5 years now. I bought him a Kindle Fire for the holidays, but more than that he loves it when I spend time with him. Your parents want that more than anything as they get older, material things mean less and less as life goes on.

And honestly: I was never as close to my dad as I was to my mother. If she'd been the surviving parent, it would have been easy to hang out all the time with her. Dad and I have had a rougher relationship, he's very conservative loves Faux news and gets more afraid of foreigners trying to rip him off as the years go by. Sometimes I just wanna scream. So I understand that spending time with parents can drive you crazy, but remember we did the same to them when we were younger. Turnabout fair play, right?

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What would you get your ageing parents for Christmas if they have everything and you have [View all] applegrove Dec 2011 OP

A new will. rug Dec 2011 #1

omg. Wait Wut Dec 2011 #37

Why not make them some homemade candy? Frosty1 Dec 2011 #2

A fruit basket? Frosty1 Dec 2011 #3

Was "killer recipes" intentional. russspeakeasy Dec 2011 #29

OMG Frosty1 Dec 2011 #38

Something aesthetically sweet or sentimental? melonkali Dec 2011 #4

A supermarket gift card? graywarrior Dec 2011 #5

My sister, who is a little tight on funds this year, Staph Dec 2011 #6

Write them an IOU pink-o Dec 2011 #7

I'm pretty sure applegrove is full time caregiver of both her parents right now Kali Dec 2011 #18

The gift of time. stevedeshazer Dec 2011 #8

I'd make something homemade. Perhaps make them dinner for a week. A homemade coupon book Justice wanted Dec 2011 #9

Can you afford a photo album? Most agers have a boatload of MichiganVote Dec 2011 #10

What I would love if my kids were close rurallib Dec 2011 #11

A scrap book or an picture frame OhioBlue Dec 2011 #12

Mostly the same as last year: biscotti and kentauros Dec 2011 #13

I'll try and cook rack of lamb for them. It is my turn to cook the turkey but I just applegrove Dec 2011 #15

I'm the last person to ask advice on how to cook meat. kentauros Dec 2011 #17

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Dec 2011 #14

I bought books. Chan790 Dec 2011 #16

A donation gift beac Dec 2011 #19

are there pets in the house? I know you have a cat Kali Dec 2011 #20

Spend time with them. It's a gift to both of you! CottonBear Dec 2011 #21

grandchildren? Bucky Dec 2011 #22

Write them a letter Taverner Dec 2011 #23

Yes, they'd love things like treestar Dec 2011 #32

How about a picture collage... one_voice Dec 2011 #24

This is a good idea treestar Dec 2011 #31

My folks were between 65 and 70 years old when I got them one of these for about $15-$20... MiddleFingerMom Dec 2011 #25

That is a good idea. I, myself, loved those when I was a kid. I remember one time applegrove Dec 2011 #26

My mother specifically said she wanted chocolate covered cherries for Christmas. Jamastiene Dec 2011 #27

Honeybelles elleng Dec 2011 #28

Make some bird food xmas74 Dec 2011 #30

My presence. Xipe Totec Dec 2011 #33

Give them a coupon to do some work around their house LiberalEsto Dec 2011 #34

Music. Can you burn some CD's of some oldies? riderinthestorm Dec 2011 #35

Give them time. Lots and lots of time. virgogal Dec 2011 #36

I am an aging parent, but I will be happy with cash. n/t RebelOne Dec 2011 #39

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