To decide that they shouldn't be applied when warranted is an excellent way to lose Democratic voters. We are their champions, and their only consistent ally.
If you're arguing against intellectual discussions on the topics which point out how those who aren't effected, can't realate to the biases, I'll counter most American voters have never encountered such an argument. They react to their actual biases, not discussion of the topics. It's through discussion that people grow, and evolve their social thinking, if they're capable.
Frankly, if a person isn't able to evolve beyond their racial and misogynistic biases, we don't need them in the Democratic Party. We need to focus on bringing in the much lager amount of the population which agree with us on these issues, but simply doesn't vote, yet.
I hope Trump will be a catalyst for that with the Democrats. Many people who never bothered to pay attention to politics before are speaking politics now that he's been inaugurated thaOf them I've yet to see a one who feels safe, or comforted. This is the only tiny bit of hope I've been holding onto.
What we cannot do is be marginalized by dividing ourselves at this point. It will be the end of us, as those in the RW hope we will do.