So I am guessing I am the one who brought on this question and if I am the one who offended you I am sorry. It was not intended.
The reason I use the term is this;
It is not overly apparent that I am gay. Yet, there are those who have been able to determine this by just looking at me. While others need to get to know me before they start assuming that I am gay, yet some I have known for years and when I finally tell them they are utterly shocked.
I don't know what words to use but I do feel some can tell, maybe by very subtle actions, while others are so clueless they have to be outright told.
But, is it the term or the action?
If it is the word no problem we simply add it to the list of words which we are not allowed to use.
If it is the action, not using a word to describe it doesn't change the assumption. People make judgements each and everyday, it is human nature and eliminating the term we use won't change things.
To be completely honest when I see someone I am attracted to that I would like to ask out, I use my "homosexual observational awareness" to determine my chances the guy is gay. But being that I have only a 10% chance (statically) of being right and am seldom wrong there is something to it no matter what you call it.
Once again if I am the reason for this post and i offended you I am sorry, it was not my intentions and will try to refrain from offending in the future.
Also, if I am still allowed to make changes I will remove the term from my OP
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