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23. I love him very much. He is my youngest brother

I am the firstborn.

There are fifteen years between us. He practically considers me his surrogate father.

Our father died when he was still five years old, by the way.

Oddly enough, I had a hard time communicating with him early on. Until I discovered the solution...

Once I started treating him like my daughter, rather than my brother, we started connecting better.

His sensibility is very feminine. Much like our sister. I never knew that or realized it before.

But once I stopped trying to treat him as a male; the default behavior, we were able to connect, communicate, and enjoy each other's company.

My explanation is crude and inadequate, I'm sure, but to the best of my abilities, that's how I can make sense of how we found common ground...