Male erotica in the LGBT group: Why now? What's changed?

[Ms. Toad]

70. I'm not baiting

You described my expression of what I am feeling as an offensive implication about the group. As we both know from explaining LGBT issues over and over again in the general population of DU, things which are done or said with completely innocent intent can still feel unwelcoming, or worse - and that it really doesn't matter what the speaker intended. I don't think most gay men in the LGBT group intend to be unwelcoming to women (with one notable exception upthread) - and I don't think the people posting the threads gave it a second thought. That doesn't change how I experience the threads, or give you the right to dismiss my feelings as an offensive implication about the group. I hoped phrasing it as a question might encourage you reach the conclusion on your own. (And, FWIW, I did not generalize my experience to all women - I posed a question about whether other women might have similar feelings.)

As to the rest of it, you are reading way more into my posts than I actually said. All I have done is made an observation or two about my feelings, the group composition, and general dynamics in most LGBT groups - and raised questions about the observations which I think it might be useful for the group to explore in the context of the current discussion.

BTW - I only pointed you to the thread starters because it is a convenient at-a-glance view of people participating here, not to distinguish thread starters from any other participants in the group. I don't suspect the in-the-thread demographics would be dramatically different, I just figured a glance at the front page would give you a quick and dirty overview of gender balance.