Crisis of self (for lack of a better term) regarding marriage [View all]
I'm a 48 year old gay man living in Minnesota. This week is turning out to be a turning point in how I view myself.
I've always advocated for marriage equality. Even when Paul Wellstone voted for DOMA, I was protesting him at HRC events here in Minneapolis. I've always believed it was right that we should have marriage equality. I've always thought it would come about in my lifetime, but I've never taken the time to think about what it would mean to me on a personal level to actually BE married.
On Monday the Minnesota Senate is likely to approve a bill that will make marriage equality a reality in my home state, and I find myself caught in a crisis of self over it. I don't know how to be "gay-married", so to speak.
Being a married man in a same sex relationship was never role-modeled for me growing up in my teen or even my early adult years. While I've always thought I might some day marry, but now that I find myself *3 MONTHS* away from that even being a possibility, I feel myself adrift.
My boyfriend and I are both committed to marriage equality as a goal, an ideal, a political and moral imperative, but have never even talked about whether we want to get married once it becomes possible. It was just some thing that may be possible some day.
Has anyone else who lives in a marriage-equality state found themselves in a similar state of flux regarding self in a similar manner?
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