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Response to undergroundpanther (Original post)

Sun Aug 28, 2016, 12:47 AM

4. Parents did this to kids back then. They thought it was "love."

Which is no excuse.

But, it happened (from the other direction) to someone I love very much. Back in the 1950s. When female gestures, characteristics began to emerge, first they would grab the hands, hold them down. "You can't wave your hands around like that when you're talking. Stop it."

Then there was the hormone injections. Then never told their 'son' that was what they were doing, 'he' had to figure it out later.

Health consequences, body image... living a life as the 'wrong' gender.

Because they 'loved' 'him'.

Didn't want their 'son' to be 'different.' They knew how much bullying, teasing, shame 'he' would have to go through, if anyone thought 'he' was 'sissy.'

Get the damn' genetic testing, if you possibly can. Downthread someone suggest you get therapy, and that's a damn' good suggestion, too.

You were betrayed.

Whether that betrayal was from loving motives or not doesn't really make a difference to the challenges and decisions before you right now. But there'll be a ton of feelings, resentments, old stuff to deal with and it will help clear your head and make better decisions.

We're here. Hangin' in here with you.

This community. We are here for you.

You are stronger than they gave you credit for.

One day at a time, one step at a time, you can do this.

Make your life into what you want it to be, what you want your self to be.

You're not alone.

positively,
Bright

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