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In reply to the discussion: I feel so betrayed. [View all]

vlyons

(10,252 posts)
11. You need to also forgive your Dad
Sun Aug 28, 2016, 02:26 AM
Aug 2016

The abuse that he inflicted on the world and those around him came out of his own suffering, hatred, and delusion. As a kid, I didn't much like my parents either. My parents grew up in abusive and neglectful families, and that's what and how they learned to treat their families. There was no one to teach them love, patience, tolerance, forgiveness. And I didn't learn it from them either. But I discovered, studied, and converted to Buddhism, where those qualities are advocated and practiced. The very first teaching of Buddha after his enlightenment was the truth of suffering. We are all of us suffering. And knowledge of suffering is supposed to help us feel compassion for all other sentient beings. My parents are dead, but I still pray for them if they were reincarnated as another sentient being somewhere. I pray that they were reborn into a loving family and have easy access to an authentic teacher of compassion and wisdom. Don't nurture negative emotions of hatred and resentment. Hatred makes us stupid and increases our own suffering. May you have happiness and the causes and conditions of happiness.

I feel so betrayed. [View all] undergroundpanther Aug 2016 OP
Wow Glamrock Aug 2016 #1
will you be okay? nt retrowire Aug 2016 #2
Yeah undergroundpanther Aug 2016 #6
*hugs* nt retrowire Aug 2016 #18
someone is always here on DU Skittles Aug 2016 #19
if this is a new revelation KT2000 Aug 2016 #3
It was a slow moving revalation undergroundpanther Aug 2016 #7
Parents did this to kids back then. They thought it was "love." TygrBright Aug 2016 #4
Thanks TygrBright undergroundpanther Aug 2016 #9
Have you heard of the novel "Middlesex"? AnotherDreamWeaver Aug 2016 #5
Forgive your parents vlyons Aug 2016 #8
I forgive my mom undergroundpanther Aug 2016 #10
You need to also forgive your Dad vlyons Aug 2016 #11
This message was self-deleted by its author undergroundpanther Aug 2016 #13
No I don't undergroundpanther Aug 2016 #14
Oh by the way undergroundpanther Aug 2016 #15
that's what Buddhism is about vlyons Aug 2016 #16
forgiveness is overated... uriel1972 Aug 2016 #21
Hugs, UGPanther GoDawgs Aug 2016 #12
I have difficulty with the father -forgiveness part myself. nightscanner59 Aug 2016 #17
This is very deep, and I wasn't going to comment, but... LeftRant Aug 2016 #20
I am so sorry this happened to you. /hugs! nt LostOne4Ever Aug 2016 #22
.... 8 track mind Sep 2016 #23
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