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Response to Johnny2X2X (Original post)

Tue May 25, 2021, 10:14 AM

11. I'm not going to lie

It leaves me with a funny feeling. I believe this is honestly where some people are in their feelings about it. While I am completely accepting of my friend, and so is my wife, I also know that I will be uncomfortable explaining to my family or other friends what is going on with my friend who is transitioning. It's not a comfortable thing to imagine if my elderly dad asks me what the heck is going on with my buddy? It's not a comfortable thing to imagine questions from co-workers. But when I think of this, I think of how little courage it actually takes from me to tell someone it's really none of their business, or to tell them that's who that person is now and leave it at that compared to what my friend is struggling with and has been struggling with. But yeah, that's not something I look forward to, but it's what's right. I'd prefer not to have to explain anything to anyone, that'd be easiest for me, that's my honest answer, but that also would not be fair to everyone.

That's not something I should be struggling with, but it is none the less. I know what's right. But there are still very conservative sentiments about gender identity built into the world all around me. I'm not resentful , because this is an opportunity to grow and help others grow, but I am apprehensive about how to go about things. I get it, this is not about me, stop making it about me, but I did mention that this is very public, everyone knows how close we are to this person, they've spent Christmas with our families. This person will very likely be on local TV this Fall as a woman talking about their transition, that's already in the works. So this isn't something I can ignore. I'm not going to pretend it's no big deal, I'm going to be an advocate, because that's who I am as a friend. Just not sure what works best.

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