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HockeyMom

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4. I am 63 and a bit older than you

Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:31 PM

Feb 2012

Again, I think this is more because of my size than age. I have had OLD MEN (70s & 80s) offer to carry my groceries!!! A young sexy chick I am not. Why me? While I find that somewhat amusing given that I work LIFTING disabled children and adults, I find myself feeling sorry for these men. I guess they don't quite get it. I could be helping THEM. I have shoveled snow in my driveway and men will stop and offer to help me. My daughter has said many times, "Why don't they offer to help ME?" She is young, big, and strong looking. I guess I look helpless.

Once going into a bagel store, I held the door open for a young man (30s) carrying a load of coffees and bagels. I couldn't believe his reaction to this. He couldn't stop thanking me. What in is world was the big deal? I am too fragile to hold a door open?????? Or women, especially an old woman, can't do this for a younger man?

Men, cannot figure them out; whether they are 35 or 85.

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Invisible Women [View all] OKNancy Feb 2012 OP

I'm 53 and for the most part I don't feel bad about it at all notadmblnd Feb 2012 #1

Yes, and NO HockeyMom Feb 2012 #2

I know how you feel all american girl Feb 2012 #5

"Is your Mommy home?" HockeyMom Feb 2012 #8

For me it was like some power had been taken away from me OKNancy Feb 2012 #3

that's exactly how I've felt zazen Feb 2012 #11

I am 63 and a bit older than you HockeyMom Feb 2012 #4

it's embarrassing to admit that some days this prospect is terrifying zazen Feb 2012 #6

attractive older women are called "handsome" OKNancy Feb 2012 #7

hah! yes, it's almost equestrian or something zazen Feb 2012 #9

that's funny, because I used to say I could wait to get old and be eccentric OKNancy Feb 2012 #15

Honestly I feel MORE empowered as a older women HockeyMom Feb 2012 #10

that's inspiring! n/t zazen Feb 2012 #14

actually, do you 40-50-somethings seem to elicit new male resentment? zazen Feb 2012 #12

That's always happened. redqueen Feb 2012 #21

Your post reminded me of a speech Lisa D Feb 2012 #28

As time goes on, we get more and more invisible. It's weird. Warpy Feb 2012 #13

you are active in the cooking and baking group OKNancy Feb 2012 #16

Not when THEY get sick HockeyMom Feb 2012 #17

When you're young, it's so easy to rely on your looks Matariki Feb 2012 #18

Well, I don't think it as easy as all that OKNancy Feb 2012 #19

ie - you and the author of the blog *aren't* invisible. Matariki Feb 2012 #20

This is why I went on such a tear about Miss Representation. redqueen Feb 2012 #22

Oh, and I also wanted to share this here, as it is related. redqueen Feb 2012 #23

that's pretty much on the same topic OKNancy Feb 2012 #24

I like my invisibility too The empressof all Feb 2012 #25

Well, minus the menopause stuff, yeah :) redqueen Feb 2012 #26

Speaking of menopause OKNancy Feb 2012 #27

I got to go through it twice Irishonly Feb 2012 #30

I don't mind being invisible most of the time Irishonly Feb 2012 #29

If I dress like a tart I can still attract attention, but I prefer kestrel91316 Feb 2012 #31