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zazen

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11. that's exactly how I've felt

Reply to OKNancy (Reply #3)

Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:58 PM

Feb 2012

And people resent you for the power you have when you're young, but you didn't ask for it (nor typically know how to deploy it). Yet you didn't ask to be powerless in that respect when you got older.

I'd have traded it all for a sense of interpersonal recognition that just felt stable, respectful, and balanced, not being treated like I was prey to be hunted when I was younger or invisible and worthless as I get older.

But I do like some of the invisibility now, as you say.

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Invisible Women [View all] OKNancy Feb 2012 OP

I'm 53 and for the most part I don't feel bad about it at all notadmblnd Feb 2012 #1

Yes, and NO HockeyMom Feb 2012 #2

I know how you feel all american girl Feb 2012 #5

"Is your Mommy home?" HockeyMom Feb 2012 #8

For me it was like some power had been taken away from me OKNancy Feb 2012 #3

that's exactly how I've felt zazen Feb 2012 #11

I am 63 and a bit older than you HockeyMom Feb 2012 #4

it's embarrassing to admit that some days this prospect is terrifying zazen Feb 2012 #6

attractive older women are called "handsome" OKNancy Feb 2012 #7

hah! yes, it's almost equestrian or something zazen Feb 2012 #9

that's funny, because I used to say I could wait to get old and be eccentric OKNancy Feb 2012 #15

Honestly I feel MORE empowered as a older women HockeyMom Feb 2012 #10

that's inspiring! n/t zazen Feb 2012 #14

actually, do you 40-50-somethings seem to elicit new male resentment? zazen Feb 2012 #12

That's always happened. redqueen Feb 2012 #21

Your post reminded me of a speech Lisa D Feb 2012 #28

As time goes on, we get more and more invisible. It's weird. Warpy Feb 2012 #13

you are active in the cooking and baking group OKNancy Feb 2012 #16

Not when THEY get sick HockeyMom Feb 2012 #17

When you're young, it's so easy to rely on your looks Matariki Feb 2012 #18

Well, I don't think it as easy as all that OKNancy Feb 2012 #19

ie - you and the author of the blog *aren't* invisible. Matariki Feb 2012 #20

This is why I went on such a tear about Miss Representation. redqueen Feb 2012 #22

Oh, and I also wanted to share this here, as it is related. redqueen Feb 2012 #23

that's pretty much on the same topic OKNancy Feb 2012 #24

I like my invisibility too The empressof all Feb 2012 #25

Well, minus the menopause stuff, yeah :) redqueen Feb 2012 #26

Speaking of menopause OKNancy Feb 2012 #27

I got to go through it twice Irishonly Feb 2012 #30

I don't mind being invisible most of the time Irishonly Feb 2012 #29

If I dress like a tart I can still attract attention, but I prefer kestrel91316 Feb 2012 #31