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Irishonly

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29. I don't mind being invisible most of the time

Wed Feb 15, 2012, 07:13 PM

Feb 2012

I am not invisible to the people who matter most and around my neck of the woods I am known as the older hippie woman that feeds hummingbirds and walks her dogs. I am 5'4" and average weight. I have two large German Shepherds. They get more attention than I do and I am their proud mama. I bring up the dogs because when I first started walking them I was asked if I could control them a lot. It was a stupid question as I would not be walking them if I couldn't.

I don't notice if I am paid a lot of attention or not. I don't think I have the need anymore. I beat back aggressive breast cancer and it aged me. fighting cancer changed my outlook on life. My family doesn't think I am invisible and that is good enough for me. After the cancer I became disabled. Chemo kills a lot besides cancer and I move more slowly than I would like.

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Invisible Women [View all] OKNancy Feb 2012 OP

I'm 53 and for the most part I don't feel bad about it at all notadmblnd Feb 2012 #1

Yes, and NO HockeyMom Feb 2012 #2

I know how you feel all american girl Feb 2012 #5

"Is your Mommy home?" HockeyMom Feb 2012 #8

For me it was like some power had been taken away from me OKNancy Feb 2012 #3

that's exactly how I've felt zazen Feb 2012 #11

I am 63 and a bit older than you HockeyMom Feb 2012 #4

it's embarrassing to admit that some days this prospect is terrifying zazen Feb 2012 #6

attractive older women are called "handsome" OKNancy Feb 2012 #7

hah! yes, it's almost equestrian or something zazen Feb 2012 #9

that's funny, because I used to say I could wait to get old and be eccentric OKNancy Feb 2012 #15

Honestly I feel MORE empowered as a older women HockeyMom Feb 2012 #10

that's inspiring! n/t zazen Feb 2012 #14

actually, do you 40-50-somethings seem to elicit new male resentment? zazen Feb 2012 #12

That's always happened. redqueen Feb 2012 #21

Your post reminded me of a speech Lisa D Feb 2012 #28

As time goes on, we get more and more invisible. It's weird. Warpy Feb 2012 #13

you are active in the cooking and baking group OKNancy Feb 2012 #16

Not when THEY get sick HockeyMom Feb 2012 #17

When you're young, it's so easy to rely on your looks Matariki Feb 2012 #18

Well, I don't think it as easy as all that OKNancy Feb 2012 #19

ie - you and the author of the blog *aren't* invisible. Matariki Feb 2012 #20

This is why I went on such a tear about Miss Representation. redqueen Feb 2012 #22

Oh, and I also wanted to share this here, as it is related. redqueen Feb 2012 #23

that's pretty much on the same topic OKNancy Feb 2012 #24

I like my invisibility too The empressof all Feb 2012 #25

Well, minus the menopause stuff, yeah :) redqueen Feb 2012 #26

Speaking of menopause OKNancy Feb 2012 #27

I got to go through it twice Irishonly Feb 2012 #30

I don't mind being invisible most of the time Irishonly Feb 2012 #29

If I dress like a tart I can still attract attention, but I prefer kestrel91316 Feb 2012 #31