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Response to bucolic_frolic (Reply #3)

Tue Apr 27, 2021, 09:11 AM

23. Violence against women has DOUBLED and your response is "women do it too"?

Which excuses and negates that 50% increase in violence against women as if it is negligible and doesn't mean anything and shouldn't mean anything. . . . that it's just "normal" behavior.

YOUR RESPONSE HERE is ITSELF the definition of mental and emotional abuse.

How? Here I'll spell it out for you:

Accusing, blaming, and denial
This behavior comes from an abuser’s insecurities. They want to create a hierarchy in which they’re at the top and you’re at the bottom. Or that abuse is EQUAL to and justified by the victim's behavior.

Here are some examples:

Turning the tables. They say you cause their rage and control issues by being such a pain. ('women who do this too, or are provocateurs who incite others.')
Denying something you know is true. An abuser will deny that an argument or even an agreement took place. This is called gaslighting. It’s meant to make you question your own memory and sanity. (you are gaslighting other here about this global increase in violence against women)
Goading then blaming. Abusers know just how to upset you. But once the trouble starts, it’s your fault for creating it. ('women who do this too, or are provocateurs who incite others.')
Denying their abuse. When you complain about their attacks, abusers will deny it, seemingly bewildered at the very thought of it. (you and others here WILL be 'bewildered' at my telling you that your response here is in itself abuse - WATCH - it'll happen)
Accusing you of abuse. They say you’re the one who has anger and control issues and they’re the helpless victim. (abusive men always portray themselves as helpless victims - 'pussywhipped' - your response here - supports them ie: 'women who do this too, or are provocateurs who incite others.')
Trivializing. When you want to talk about your hurt feelings, they accuse you of overreacting and making mountains out of molehills. (your response here ('Wow. There have always been jilted lovers, triangles, sadists') is TRIVIALIZING. Period.)
Blaming you for their problems. Whatever’s wrong in their life is all your fault. You’re not supportive enough, didn’t do enough, or stuck your nose where it didn’t belong. (you are blaming women for the 50% increase in violence against them - in your response - while trying to pass that 50% increase in violence against women as "normal" and also trivial)
Destroying and denying. They might crack your cell phone screen or “lose” your car keys, then deny it. (your response 'women do it too' and your attempt to pass this behavior off as "normal" is flat out denial of that 50% increase, in addition to trivializing it)

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