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Response to 58Sunliner (Reply #28)

Tue Apr 27, 2021, 10:34 AM

46. I spent 5 years in a violent marriage

before I was able to get out. Then I dealt with stalking and death threats after I left him, including 3 hours alone in a car in the middle of nowhere at the muzzle end of a gun, answering invasive and meandering questions from my ex.

So I know a little about domestic violence. I made it my business to learn more about it once I was completely out of that marriage. Did not want any repeats.

I learned that men can be and are victims of domestic violence by women. It is not as frequent as men against women - or at least is not reported as often - but it does happen. Women with strong needs to dominate and hurt men can and do use psychological methods of destroying self esteem and confidence, and back it up with violence.

Men are too embarrassed to report it. They are not believed. They are treated with crude "humor" when they do talk about it. They sometimes stay in a relationship out of fear of leaving their children in the hands of a violence prone mother since women often get custody of children, even if only partial custody. Men especially worry about their sons in those relationships.

After leaving a violent wife or girlfriend, men are often stalked by their ex or threatened with charges that would cost them visits with their children, just as happens in the reverse situation of men who are violent with women.

It really is a thing. It really does happen. It's about personality types, insecurity, need to control and dominate, need to hurt others. It is not both siderism to say that it exists.

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