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Neoma

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Thu Feb 16, 2012, 10:14 PM Feb 2012

To all who has been concerned. [View all]

This discussion thread was locked by Neoma (a host of the Feminists group).

I apologize for pinning these posts at the top for the moment, but it is for the people who has been asking a lot of questions and voicing concerns. I am trying to sweep up the mess as well as I can. Now, onward!

I had said near the bottom of my last thread, this:

Now my dear co-hosts, I am removing all of you, but I will not ban you or anyone else unless it is very clear to do so because of verbal abuse, bullying, provoking, etc. (This goes the same for people who are not hosts.) I am giving you a chance. I am locking all threads that has caused disruption.

This thread is a warning, please keep these discussions in H&M or in the pinned threads. Please calm down. The fact that you are still here is a miracle, and I'm surprised you haven't caught on to that.

To people who are still confused (I don't see how you could be) as to why I was angry enough to ban iverglas that led to my co-hosts focusing the flame-war on me, someone found this for me, and now I give you the off-DU forum thread she made that ticked me off: http://feministshosts.boardhost.com/viewtopic.php?id=4&p=2 It's the forum I didn't want made.



I would not have taken the course of action of posting that long thread, if I didn't contact the administration. EarlG has responded to me that his PM to me was not confidential. I would have posted it in the long thread if I knew it wasn't confidential, so here it is:





I went with a slightly modified version of the 2nd one. With people wanting an explanation of my actions thus far, I believed they needed it. It coincided with all the rules that Democratic Underground has in place. I am proud of what Democratic Underground has done with the place. I like the juries, I like MIRT, I like how the group hosts and co-host system is in place. After hearing how horrible the jury system it is, I have seen the direct opposite result throughout this flame-war.

To those who cannot read the Forum & Hosts group (Yes, it's allowed to quote from there):





Then with Skinner:





On another note, I am in need a new co-host. (I'm choosing one at a time for the moment.) A person has to sleep, and eat, and use the bathroom...(Something I really couldn't do this week. I lost 11 pounds.) So I need someone to watch when I'm away. I am going to be choosing very carefully and it might take a little time. I definitely don't want to rush this process. (I don't think anybody can blame me for that.) If you want to look forward to a brighter Feminist forum every day. Please PM me.

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Post removed Post removed Feb 2012 #1
Should we take this to mean DURHAM D Feb 2012 #2
oh my obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #6
I'll be un subscribing now. I want nothing to do with a group sufrommich Feb 2012 #3
Me too! Thanks for the idea. Little Star Feb 2012 #9
That was a very thoughtful note from EarlG. Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #4
I was as impressed as you, Ruby. Very well-thought out & considerate. pacalo Feb 2012 #112
Really? redqueen Feb 2012 #5
I'm still has concern. boston bean Feb 2012 #7
Read post #94 WingDinger Feb 2012 #95
I'm unsubscribing Pithlet Feb 2012 #8
Good for you. I hope some of the more reasonable and thoughtful posters in this Group Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #10
I cosign this post obamanut2012 Feb 2012 #12
This is as awesome & as on target as a comment could be in regard to how this OP affected me, too. pacalo Feb 2012 #114
Latest Breaking News, General Discussion, Video & Media, or Good Reads seabeyond Feb 2012 #116
"job well done. you can take the safe haven out. there is no need." pacalo Feb 2012 #118
your wording is odd. seabeyond Feb 2012 #119
Forgive me for my writing skills, but I find it odd that you would talk to me like that. pacalo Feb 2012 #120
hm. the not welcome in conversation, threw me. seabeyond Feb 2012 #121
And the answer to my question is...? pacalo Feb 2012 #122
Neoma, Once again you show great leadership skills. William769 Feb 2012 #11
+1 n/t Shining Jack Feb 2012 #20
I look forward to this group getting back on track. tammywammy Feb 2012 #13
You have shown real courage this past week, Neoma. This is what feminism is all about. yardwork Feb 2012 #14
If banning voting and all dissent is feminism, count me out... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #72
Empowering women to think for themselves is the essence of feminism. yardwork Feb 2012 #106
Dear Neoma, my reasonable response to you... ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #15
I thought Neoma's comment (which you quoted) applied only to those who were bullying her. pacalo Feb 2012 #117
Thank you for all the transparency. Starry Messenger Feb 2012 #16
Wow. It's all about you. Gonna go play with the OTHER feminists. kestrel91316 Feb 2012 #17
You deserve a medal quinnox Feb 2012 #18
For me, and I fully supported Neoma, it has become a matter of trust. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #21
I can understand if Neoma needed to vent a little quinnox Feb 2012 #23
I truly wish you all the best of luck. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #24
I'm an outsider to this forum quinnox Feb 2012 #25
One thing I noted here, Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #27
I never took a pot shot Texasgal Feb 2012 #31
Guessing you were post #20? Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #34
Hey! That.... justiceischeap Feb 2012 #37
And she locked my very reasonable thread here. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #32
I agree Laura. Texasgal Feb 2012 #33
And, if these posts are allowed to stand by jury, I would lay money ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #35
I really need to go to bed justiceischeap Feb 2012 #36
It was not. It was a thread on my experience here, as a feminist and what I saw happening. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #39
How embarrassing! justiceischeap Feb 2012 #42
she locked redqueens thread about moving on. boston bean Feb 2012 #45
I agree that one doesn't make sense. justiceischeap Feb 2012 #46
I am sorry. But the forum is just as inclusive as it was before... ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #47
I don't know what thread that was Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #41
For it to be locked? No I asked her to unlock it so that I could delete it so that she ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #43
I just looked, and it seems all Meta-ish threads talking about about the forum Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #50
I would agree...if the opportunity had been given for me to delete it. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #53
This isn't my forum by any stretch. Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #55
This is not the feedback I am receiving from the host. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2012 #56
Patriarchy IS class warfare (and vice versa) Remember Me Feb 2012 #109
I am very sorry to see this. wildflower Feb 2012 #19
One of the best ideas in this thread. BlueIris Feb 2012 #63
Thank you BlueIris...please feel free to take the idea and use it! wildflower Feb 2012 #84
As a subscriber Texasgal Feb 2012 #22
It costs money to read/post here? nt Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #28
Ummm sure will. Texasgal Feb 2012 #30
I think you are confused. First, I don't host H&M - never have Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #38
Good GOD! Texasgal Feb 2012 #44
I am as calm as can be. Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #49
I admire you, Neoma enigmatic Feb 2012 #26
Could you kindly correct your grammar in your subject line? hlthe2b Feb 2012 #29
Ya know... UnrepentantLiberal Feb 2012 #40
The admin thing could be because of me justiceischeap Feb 2012 #48
I was more talking about the TONE of her post. UnrepentantLiberal Feb 2012 #52
I agree, it's an obvious attempt BlueIris Feb 2012 #64
I hate to say I told you so.... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #69
Just so I understand Angry Dragon Feb 2012 #51
No, the other thread explains more about why I banned her. MANY reasons. Neoma Feb 2012 #57
hi there Kali Feb 2012 #59
It's a she said she said situation. Neoma Feb 2012 #60
so you objected to the off-DU site by PMs to your co-hosts? Kali Feb 2012 #62
Wow. JTFrog Feb 2012 #130
You really should step down LaurenG Feb 2012 #142
That's a pretty fair summary. n/t laconicsax Feb 2012 #61
you nailed it n/t Scout Feb 2012 #86
Yes, that is it exactly. Rex Feb 2012 #124
I would have preferred option 3 MadrasT Feb 2012 #54
Good grief! Th1onein Feb 2012 #58
Rec - nt Ohio Joe Feb 2012 #65
Congratulations on your appointment as a group co-host here. BlueIris Feb 2012 #68
No announcement, no consultation, no nothing... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #82
To say she's done nothing for you is absolutely false CreekDog Feb 2012 #85
'scuse me, but most of the "work" she did was to clean up the mess Scout Feb 2012 #87
just a fyi, but only juries can hide a post. n/t maddezmom Feb 2012 #88
yes, and anyone can send the alert to the Jury, including Neoma. n/t Scout Feb 2012 #90
this is just more noise CreekDog Feb 2012 #89
what lies have i told? prove it. Scout Feb 2012 #91
Animosity. NT William769 Feb 2012 #93
so, my position according to you is "animosity" and according to CreekDog Scout Feb 2012 #96
This message was self-deleted by its author redqueen Feb 2012 #92
"The fact that you are still here is a miracle, and I'm surprised you haven't caught on to that." ellisonz Feb 2012 #66
I've PMd you with some questions. Just like I've done for the past few days... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #67
"Did EarlG give you permission to post his PM?" tammywammy Feb 2012 #70
Sorry, I missed in amongst all the stuff about losing 11 pounds in one day and banning voting! Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #71
Sorry, but she didn't say that. polly7 Feb 2012 #73
No, she said one week. My mistake... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #74
Well, to be fair ........ no-one knows what else is going on with Neoma's life, and polly7 Feb 2012 #75
I honestly don't give a shit about her life story. I was a member here because of feminism... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #76
She wasn't self-appointed. She became host when the previous polly7 Feb 2012 #77
She sacked the other hosts that we'd all elected.... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #78
Ziiiiiing! polly7 Feb 2012 #79
See ya in the other group, polly! Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #80
Bingo. tpsbmam Feb 2012 #83
No one has explicitly brought up the fact that EarlG suggested THREE options, tpsbmam Feb 2012 #81
There is one very good option thus far untouched. WingDinger Feb 2012 #94
Are you forgetting this is a women's forum? UnrepentantLiberal Feb 2012 #97
Just throwing it out there. I dont want to be that nemesis. WingDinger Feb 2012 #98
I was just kidding. UnrepentantLiberal Feb 2012 #99
Yeah, and as long as tpsbmam Feb 2012 #101
"The fact that you are still here is a miracle, and I'm surprised you haven't caught on to that" jeff47 Feb 2012 #100
+1 snagglepuss Feb 2012 #107
Looks like that is what this group is going to be all about. Rex Feb 2012 #127
Is it possible she was referring to the group being allowed to continue by the admins polly7 Feb 2012 #128
The admins shutting it down isn't any better jeff47 Feb 2012 #129
Right? JTFrog Feb 2012 #131
Have never really read this forum but K8-EEE Feb 2012 #102
The use of women as Rethug whipping girls, has an effect. WingDinger Feb 2012 #103
The thing that everyone seems to be missing here is: Puglover Feb 2012 #104
Unfortunately, to quote Rumsfeld, democracy is messy. WingDinger Feb 2012 #105
I agree with what you say. Puglover Feb 2012 #108
I didn't miss it. In fact, that's the part that bothers me most and why I reacted the way I did. Pithlet Feb 2012 #110
I could not agree more. hlthe2b Feb 2012 #111
+1 ellisonz Feb 2012 #113
There were two election threads. Neoma locked both of them. laconicsax Feb 2012 #115
Why on earth did you not pick option 3? Chemisse Feb 2012 #123
It's easy to speculate why someone wouldn't start an election that may unseat them. laconicsax Feb 2012 #125
+1 n/t JTFrog Feb 2012 #132
Enjoy your fiefdom Amaril Feb 2012 #126
By the way it's "to all who HAVE been concerned". JTFrog Feb 2012 #133
I still has a concern. laconicsax Feb 2012 #134
Bullying: it’s not just for kids polly7 Feb 2012 #135
I agree. Neoma's iron fist is trying to bully us into submission. n/t laconicsax Feb 2012 #136
+1 JTFrog Feb 2012 #137
Not even asking for a democratic solution--asking if there will be a democratic solution. laconicsax Feb 2012 #138
lmao. polly7 Feb 2012 #140
Really ?? polly7 Feb 2012 #139
Thanks for demonstrating that you have no clue what you're talking about. laconicsax Feb 2012 #141
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