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KurtNYC

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13. when one of my relatives chose hospice I had her neighbors and friends

Wed Oct 16, 2013, 09:50 AM

Oct 2013

yelling at me "She should be in a hospital!" I tried to hear their love for her in those words.

It is denial. Akin to when people come to "cheer you up" because THEY can't deal with your reality.

Death itself is part of every life and perhaps we should all take some time to think about how we want to spend our last days. My neighbor was an RN practitioner and chose to die at home. He had had more than 100 people pass in his presence as many families called him (rather than 911) when the end seemed near for their loved ones. Good or bad he always told them the truth as he saw it and they trusted him. He comforted the living and the dying, and in many cases that is all that can or should be done.

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Doctors' Secret for How to Die Right [View all] xchrom Oct 2013 OP

This sort of information is especially useful Turbineguy Oct 2013 #1

Yesterday my cat had a stroke and I took her to the vet. safeinOhio Oct 2013 #2

So true, safeinOhio. brer cat Oct 2013 #6

My vet took us out to a gentle stream behind her office KurtNYC Oct 2013 #9

so very sorry for your loss. niyad Oct 2013 #20

I'm so sorry for your loss... magical thyme Oct 2013 #15

what a very thoughtful vet niyad Oct 2013 #21

My vet and I had the same conversation when we ended my best friend's life 4 years ago mountain grammy Oct 2013 #17

so very sorry for the loss of your furbaby, safe. know how very hard it is. have heard others niyad Oct 2013 #18

My mother is going through this right now Snake Plissken Oct 2013 #3

I'm so glad you are having better quality time with your mother, CrispyQ Oct 2013 #11

I went through the same thing with my mother this past spring. Squinch Oct 2013 #35

This is the right thing if society is paying for your health care costs. i miss america Oct 2013 #4

I'm not sure what you're trying to say with this. MineralMan Oct 2013 #5

This is how our new healthcare system will operate. i miss america Oct 2013 #29

What is how it will operate? MineralMan Oct 2013 #31

I think we need a better strainer. Squinch Oct 2013 #33

society isn't paying for my health care costs, but I know it's the right thing for me magical thyme Oct 2013 #16

That will soon change once the new system is in effect. i miss america Oct 2013 #30

And how, exactly, do you think it will change? And by the way, where are you Squinch Oct 2013 #34

what will change? my lack of interest in endless procedures to drag out my death? magical thyme Oct 2013 #36

This is a very good thread, xchrom. brer cat Oct 2013 #7

Please read thisi TNNurse Oct 2013 #8

when one of my relatives chose hospice I had her neighbors and friends KurtNYC Oct 2013 #13

How is this new or controversial? AtheistCrusader Oct 2013 #10

Fine post, but why the aggressive subject line? You're on the same side. nolabear Oct 2013 #24

I am. AtheistCrusader Oct 2013 #25

Thank you for this post. russspeakeasy Oct 2013 #12

My brother chose hospice, and while so very difficult for us, it was the right thing to do FailureToCommunicate Oct 2013 #14

My brother was the first hospice patient back in 1980 before anyone even knew what hospice was.... a kennedy Oct 2013 #22

My father was a physician for 55 years, and he chose hospice and palliative care. ColesCountyDem Oct 2013 #19

The article left out a huge reason that many people cling to life even when terminally ill. Rozlee Oct 2013 #23

Not to mention : hedgehog Oct 2013 #26

Sadly, there are family members of a patient who is incapable of making decisions question everything Oct 2013 #27

I think a lot of the problem is that the family members who say, SheilaT Oct 2013 #28

I've already nixed dialysis Warpy Oct 2013 #32

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I know several people who have made 'advanced directives' to try to avoid such a fate LeftishBrit Nov 2013 #38

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