Here is my breakdown...and I do mean BREAKDOWN

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. You've been through a lot.

And I don't think the points you've brought up are your fault at all.

You couldn't help being born a girl. That was not in your control--your parents controlled what sex you are.

You wet the bed? So do many children. I really think it's an act of rebellion, though an unconscious one. My brother did the same thing, till he hit puberty. My dad had bullied him all those years, and continued to do so until my brother went to college. In fact, their relationship didn't improve until my brother came home from Viet Nam. My dad hadn't seen any action in WWII at all. So finally there was respect.

As for the beer? Your father contributed to your liking it when he shouldn't have let you anywhere near it. I am sorry you were raped. It should not have happened but it was not your fault.

You cannot change what happened to you. But you can change how you regard all of it. You need a therapist who really knows how to listen.