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angstlessk

(11,862 posts)
27. I have to be careful because he looks over my shoulder...and I do not have a phone of my own
Sun Jul 30, 2017, 05:16 PM
Jul 2017

My friend escaped because she had her own phone..I only have the internet.

I have recorded his threats, but I really am dependent on him angstlessk Jul 2017 #1
How did you record his threats exactly? With what device? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #50
My laptop has a mic that records outside voices angstlessk Jul 2017 #58
Leave. eShirl Jul 2017 #2
And go where? I cannot leave while he's in the house angstlessk Jul 2017 #7
Call the cops when he's 'misbehaving,' have them take him into custody, elleng Jul 2017 #17
I am basically home bound...if he leaves, or I have nowhere to go..I cannot take care of myself? angstlessk Jul 2017 #3
Why are you homebound? marylandblue Jul 2017 #9
I am old, and going down the stairs has become a problem angstlessk Jul 2017 #11
Contact a woman's shelter, they will help you find an exit plan. procon Jul 2017 #15
I am on Social Security...and I guess Medicare? angstlessk Jul 2017 #20
Medicare depending on age, medicAID depending on ability and circumstances. elleng Jul 2017 #23
That's really good, see, you have some escape money. procon Jul 2017 #29
Excellent advice. JNelson6563 Jul 2017 #21
I have to be careful because he looks over my shoulder...and I do not have a phone of my own angstlessk Jul 2017 #27
Tracfone. Cheap. No contract. Walmart: less than $20 and you're set. procon Jul 2017 #30
I am home bound, and he collects all things sent to the house. angstlessk Jul 2017 #31
If you're being held prisoner, all the more reason to act urgently and get out. procon Jul 2017 #33
Then you need to make contact w the police and shelter groups via email... and figure out how to bettyellen Jul 2017 #53
Never thought about that...was going to leave with the clothes on my back angstlessk Jul 2017 #63
Make a list and a plan and hide them. IDs, whatever banking and credit stuff and whatever can fit in bettyellen Jul 2017 #67
There is so much stuff to tell..I have NO light in my room angstlessk Jul 2017 #68
Well then you have to work w what you have NOW - the computer- start reaching out NOW bettyellen Jul 2017 #73
THIS mahina Jul 2017 #71
Do you have any outside support? JNelson6563 Jul 2017 #4
No one, I abandoned my family years ago angstlessk Jul 2017 #5
Siblings? sharedvalues Jul 2017 #41
That IS a possibility...will have to think thids out...I would LOVE angstlessk Jul 2017 #64
I really hope it works out for you! sharedvalues Jul 2017 #74
Leave. WhiteTara Jul 2017 #6
Go to Al-Anon meetings for support marylandblue Jul 2017 #8
Leave! Its the way and you know that already, yeah? procon Jul 2017 #10
How to go...where to go? angstlessk Jul 2017 #13
See my reply #15 above. procon Jul 2017 #24
Leave CatMor Jul 2017 #12
I connected to one organization about him raising an ax over my head angstlessk Jul 2017 #16
That's awful CatMor Jul 2017 #22
You need to leave ASAP. A belligerent drunk can turn violent at any time. Warpy Jul 2017 #14
I cannot leave the house unless he is gone angstlessk Jul 2017 #18
Elder services might be able to help you if you're over 60 Warpy Jul 2017 #28
Please contact a women's shelter. cwydro Jul 2017 #19
Call police then is a local abuse shelter available the police will help you TEB Jul 2017 #25
You have realized this is a terrible situation. Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #26
Hoping you can take advice from these good people, some have been there. I know it's tough. Hoyt Jul 2017 #32
Tough is an understatement...but I am sure my life depends on it angstlessk Jul 2017 #36
Your future can't be worse than it is now. Who knows, Medicare will cover treatment for your husband Hoyt Jul 2017 #39
Your future is to be a person who has enough resources to meet her needs, and who Squinch Jul 2017 #76
This post refuses to post angstlessk Jul 2017 #34
Heres a link with some. Good luck, it's difficult to get out, but worth it uppityperson Jul 2017 #38
Thank you! Not sure which one I called that got him arrested.. angstlessk Jul 2017 #46
You have dogs? What will happen to them when you leave? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #75
I am a survivor of DA jodymarie aimee Jul 2017 #35
You think I am looking for attention? I have been here since it began and barely post angstlessk Jul 2017 #40
Here is my history with this man angstlessk Jul 2017 #56
You're way off base. chervilant Jul 2017 #59
I will need to plan my escape carefully angstlessk Jul 2017 #60
It sounds to me chervilant Jul 2017 #61
I have tapes of his threats angstlessk Jul 2017 #62
He held an axe over your head and then made you order two more? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #37
Oh Gosh...I forgot..I can call from my laptop! angstlessk Jul 2017 #42
You don't have a landline phone at your house? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #45
no cooking...cans of food only..I used to cook, he used to cook, now only canned food. angstlessk Jul 2017 #47
Don't wait, call. Even if you get interrupted help will come. nt procon Jul 2017 #57
Make a resolution to do SOMETHING every day sharedvalues Jul 2017 #43
I like that...maybe not as you say, but as I can angstlessk Jul 2017 #69
you should quit stalling and get out of there Kali Jul 2017 #44
Wait, you haven't left your home for 11 years? marylandblue Jul 2017 #49
Don't know if I'm afraid to, or just can't? angstlessk Jul 2017 #54
You need an assessment by a doctor, they'll probably take you marylandblue Jul 2017 #65
Sounds like some form of 'depression.' elleng Jul 2017 #72
Hmm. cwydro Aug 2017 #78
Please get help shenmue Jul 2017 #48
angstlessk, here are some quick resources for you. procon Jul 2017 #51
What brought this all to a head...a kitten! angstlessk Jul 2017 #52
You have the internet... use it. procon Jul 2017 #55
Is Linda family? pandr32 Jul 2017 #66
Run, honey. mahina Jul 2017 #70
He now brought in the kitty he kicked out AND her sister angstlessk Aug 2017 #77
from this group sop- mopinko Aug 2017 #79
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