My son has basically ended a friendship

[mzteris]

29. No - his mother is appalled

that he would speak that way. She's a teacher and has always taught him better. Hell, they took in an African American whose mom went to jail, while the dad was being located. They were applying for a foster license in case no family members stepped forward. But the dad was found and he let his son stay with them until the school year finished since he lived elsewhere. The kid still comes to visit them, too. They had a foreign exchange student from Spain. They hitchhike through Guatamala every summer.

BUT - I will say she's letting this whole "self-expression" thing go a little too far. I also support my children's "self expression" - but there are limits! She buys him - or let's him buy the music. Buys him tickets and takes him the concerts where the language is so gawdawful coarse - okay disgusting profanity - (not to mention misogynistic lyrics and behaviour).

So it's a real dichotomy in that household. They're middleclass, nice people, who teach their son better, but still it happens. The thing is, I think he IS just being a smart ass because I know he knows better. He knows he's being weird and different but it's like now that he started it - as a joke - he can't back down or something.

They definitely don't live in the ghetto. White bread middle class blue collar neighborhood for the most part. We were neighbors for about 4 years.