Why does a discussion of racism (as it relates to black Americans) always dissolve . . .

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30. I am implying nothing.

Why would I alert on you? You have strong emotions about the subject.

Angry is fine. Anger is a healthy expression of pain and assists us in moving to a place of healing that pain. Rage, on the other hand, does not. Starting a discussion on racism by calling either party 'crackers' or 'niggers' is not about anger. It is about rage which gets none of us anywhere.

I stated clearly that noiretextatique did not read my post accurately. I may indeed have knowledge that this person lacks especially as my field professionally does involve communication plus I understand quite well the differences between anger and rage. Being an 'authority' on something based on education & experience does not necessarily mean being an 'authoritarian'.

When we rage, it really doesn't accomplish a damned thing. Sure, we think it feels good to let it out - to just explode - 'righteously' even on occasion. I can't think of a single human being, young or old, rich or poor, of any race, creed, or sexual orientation, who hasn't felt so wronged that they wanted to explode in hurt and rage. But all too often it just hurts us further. We say and do things that we often regret. Things said can never be unsaid. Things done can never be undone.

You have probably made assumptions about me, and that is fine. You don't know me outside of what I choose to share & generally online I am as private as I can be. I know discrimination well. I am multi-racial. I don't look 'white' enough to be 'white'. I don't look 'black' enough to be 'black'. I know hurt and rage growing up as a boy in the south this way.

I know how my hurt led to such rage that I did stupid things - the 'angry black man' syndrome if you will. I hurt others who had nothing to do with what I experienced or my father and mother experienced or their parents before me. But I grew up. I got a lot of therapy. I learned about honor and discipline in the Army. I became a psychologist. I also became an entrepreneur and tech guy against many stereotypes of who or what I should be or become.

Yes, this is a protected group, and after what I have experienced and learned, I would still speak as passionately as I am about how to really 'communicate' with others about racism, discrimination, etc. without rancor, rage, and 'dominance games' here as I would elsewhere. I am hopefully welcome to do so though it may challenge some who are still seething in their rage and hurt. If not, that is fine.