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2. Hmm, did you get to #9?

Reply to NYC_SKP (Reply #1)

Sat Nov 1, 2014, 10:46 AM

Nov 2014

9.) Consider the possibility that some former Christians have been on the receiving end of very bad treatment at the hands of people representing your faith. Consequently, you should realize that many of us have triggers that you’ve probably never thought could be triggers for someone. Some have had what legitimately qualifies as abuse, and certain conversations, accusations, and even catch phrases can set off PTSD for them. Even the sound of some songs can send people under a pile of pain and stress because they’ve been treated so badly by others.

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I consider myself mostly agnostic, unknowing but respectful of ALL other religions.... NYC_SKP Nov 2014 #1

Hmm, did you get to #9? rug Nov 2014 #2

Yup. Except for numbers 2, 7, and 10, all are applicable to all sides of any religious debate. NYC_SKP Nov 2014 #4

"exhibit many of the same signs we see in cases of child abuse, spousal abuse, and PTSD generally" Fumesucker Nov 2014 #3

I agree with you. NYC_SKP Nov 2014 #5

I think some of that is because the second group tends to deny the experience of the first Fumesucker Nov 2014 #7

Would you also agree that belief may not be a choice for a lot of people? cbayer Nov 2014 #9

I suspect the "natural" proportion of believers in US society is lower than the numbers we see.. Fumesucker Nov 2014 #11

I agree that it is very difficult to get any definitive answer on this. cbayer Nov 2014 #12

In this one he talks about the culture shock of being where everyone looks like him, in Korea Fumesucker Nov 2014 #13

It would be completely disorienting. cbayer Nov 2014 #14

My point is if you don't share certain cultural cues with people you "should" share them with Fumesucker Nov 2014 #15

I think I understand what you are saying. cbayer Nov 2014 #16

Fitting somewhere culturally is more important even than fitting appearance wise Fumesucker Nov 2014 #17

But I think things are changing. cbayer Nov 2014 #18

I'm a secular humanist who's in love with a committed Methodist. no_hypocrisy Nov 2014 #6

Your relationship sounds wonderful. cbayer Nov 2014 #10

Really well done and worth the read. cbayer Nov 2014 #8