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I don’t want my wife to indoctrinate our two-year-old into religion [View all]
Its fine if my wife discusses religion when our daughter is old enough, but Im against her smuggling it into the childs life when she can have no understanding of its significance
My wife and I have just had a row about introducing our two-year-old to religion. I am an atheist, while my wife is a Christian, tending towards the evangelical. Religion has not been a source of tension until now. She would like me to believe, but has made no great effort to convert me.
I was content with the idea that, at some stage when our child was older, school-age at least, my wife would start discussing Christianity with her and encourage her to share her beliefs. At the same time, I planned to let her know about my atheism and tell her that other religions exist. I didnt imagine it would descend into a tug of war. If my child decides to believe, when she is old enough to make an informed choice, that will be her choice to make and I would respect it.
But tonight my wife opened a package of books she had bought, all aimed at introducing Christianity to toddlers. I protested that we hadnt even discussed broaching this subject with our child, and said I didnt want her to be indoctrinated at an age when she is barely able to form sentences. I begged for patience, and said there could be no objection to my wife discussing this with her when she is old enough to deal with such a complex subject, but that it was grossly unfair to start smuggling it into her life when she can have no understanding of its significance.
My wifes position is that to delay the discussion is, in effect, to indoctrinate our child into atheism. She seems minded to press ahead, despite my vehement disagreement. Is there any general view on the age at which a child can fairly be introduced to religion?
Not really. And the age at which you introduce a child to a religion is no indication of how strongly, or if, or for how long, they will believe in anything. I know religious people who introduce their children to religion because not believing is more widespread so they feel they need to get in early to preserve their beliefs. I do not think this approach works in the long term.
http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/dec/19/dont-want-wife-indoctrinate-two-year-old-into-religion
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I don’t want my wife to indoctrinate our two-year-old into religion [View all]
cleanhippie
Dec 2014
OP
ikr! Whouda thunkit...maybe people shud work these things out BEFORE they commit to marriage and kids...
InAbLuEsTaTe
Dec 2014
#51
"I think a lot of this has more to do with tradition and community than anything else."
cleanhippie
Dec 2014
#5
It could be they want them to catch literary references in classic books, and they want them to do
MADem
Dec 2014
#41
He's an atheist, she's a Christian, and this didn't come up 'til they had a child?
Jim__
Dec 2014
#6
I always laugh when I hear that not indoctrinating a child into religion is indoctrinating them
cleanhippie
Dec 2014
#15
Indeed.. the thought that atheism is the default position continues to baffle...
truebrit71
Dec 2014
#42
It sounds like a tough situation, but the husband can talk to the kid as well
Bjorn Against
Dec 2014
#12
I fear this poor 2 year old would be deluged with all kinds of books about religions
muriel_volestrangler
Dec 2014
#38
I think of marriage as a partnership, where both sides must work together.
Agnosticsherbet
Dec 2014
#47