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cbayer

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7. Gee, the author figured out that this wasn't really about her but about her

Reply to rug (Original post)

Mon Sep 23, 2013, 10:34 AM

Sep 2013

friend and decided she really didn't have to say anything.

That sounds about right and what one should do whether one is a believer or non-believer.

The rest of her dilemma is just nonsense, imo. No one ever knows the right thing to say at times like these and generally the survivors just want to know that you care.

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Grieving as an atheist: a surprising dilemma [View all] rug Sep 2013 OP

"She's alright now. Her suffering is over." DetlefK Sep 2013 #1

My condolences of your grandafther. rug Sep 2013 #2

"I'll keep you in my thoughts" is what I say to people in that situation. Arkansas Granny Sep 2013 #3

There are worse things than death...we've all seen them.. pipoman Sep 2013 #4

I had a friend whose baby died from sids. Warren Stupidity Sep 2013 #5

When someone goes, all we can do is look around and comfort each of us who is left. rug Sep 2013 #6

Sweet, kind friend that was. No Vested Interest Sep 2013 #10

Gee, the author figured out that this wasn't really about her but about her cbayer Sep 2013 #7

There you go. You don't have to say anything. But know what? A hug is good. n/t dimbear Sep 2013 #11

Hugs are good. cbayer Sep 2013 #12

What I say LostOne4Ever Sep 2013 #8

Huh, never been a problem for me. AtheistCrusader Sep 2013 #9