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brooklynite

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22. Sorry, but I don't understand the issue...

Reply to Nay (Original post)

Thu Dec 13, 2012, 05:09 PM

Dec 2012

Your friend either "coverted" (rationally or emotionally) or at the very least gave the neighbor permission to speak at his funeral, or he did not. If he gave them permission (unlikely as it is to assume) then they had the right to speak. If he DID NOT, then it was highly inappropriate but not "ILLEGAL" except in the sense of potentially disturbing the peace. However, since you didn't challenge the comments (other than by leaving), nobody, including apparently whomever was responsible for organizing the service complained.

You certainly should have the right to the type of memorial that YOU want, and should make sure whomever will be planning it understands what that is. But ultimately, if nobody is going to hold the attendees to that standard, no legal provision in the world will prevent it from being hijacked.

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Christians hijacked my atheist friend's memorial service. How can I keep that from happening to [View all] Nay Dec 2012 OP

Be dead and scattered 20 minutes before anyone notices? HereSince1628 Dec 2012 #1

LOL! Wish I could hope for that! Nay Dec 2012 #2

All my friends know it would be total bullshit Warpy Dec 2012 #3

Indeed, we knew it was total BS. We did get up and walk out in disgust, and we're planning a Nay Dec 2012 #4

My advance directive specifically states Mr.Bill Dec 2012 #5

The problem is that the will will probably not be read until after MineralMan Dec 2012 #6

MineralMan is right, the will is dealt with after the fact. Curmudgeoness Dec 2012 #7

You know, you're right. I knew that -- someone at the service mentioned that John's will was Nay Dec 2012 #8

The will is read to other parties after the fact. However... gcomeau Dec 2012 #13

But how will the lawyer know about your passing Curmudgeoness Dec 2012 #16

a living will? Phillip McCleod Dec 2012 #9

Funerals are for the living...not the dead... cynatnite Dec 2012 #10

Thank you, that's a good idea about leaving a letter to be read. In my friend's case, he had no Nay Dec 2012 #11

You might want to make your own funeral plans BillStein Dec 2012 #12

My Atheist mother joined the Neptune Society pink-o Dec 2012 #14

My two uncles also have arrangements with the Neptune Society. Curmudgeoness Dec 2012 #17

You don't have to have any memorial service Mariana Dec 2012 #15

Bake and Shake ... Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #20

You'll be dead, you won't care - believe me. didact Dec 2012 #18

Put a provision that anyone saying "god" or "jesus" joins you in the grave Taverner Dec 2012 #19

My dad specified in his "Living Will" that no religious service or public prayers would be allowed. Jokerman Dec 2012 #21

Sorry, but I don't understand the issue... brooklynite Dec 2012 #22

Garibaldi added this to his will Prometheus_unbound Dec 2012 #23