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Bereavement

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12. If you choose to not go to the funeral, you might consider sending a note to family members

Reply to bmichaelh (Reply #11)

Sat Apr 18, 2026, 02:47 PM

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explaining that your health did not permit it at this time.
You can be as vague 56. 1

noting their loss and your inability to attend due to health considerations.
Then you can put the whole incidence behind you and move on.

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Should I or should I not go? [View all] bmichaelh Thursday OP

This is a personal decision you must make. werdna Thursday #1

Stay home Freddie Thursday #2

It's your ultimate decision... littlemissmartypants Thursday #3

It is your choice UpInArms Thursday #4

I thought about that, when my cousins didn't attend my mom's funeral. Omnipresent Thursday #5

I did attend the funeral of my abuser. I am glad I did. It was a way to shut the door on it and a Scrivener7 Thursday #6

Did you get to say ALL justaprogressive Thursday #7

Please go snowybirdie Thursday #8

I went to my abusive mother's funeral. murielm99 Thursday #9

I didn't go to my abusive mother's funeral. And I do not feel bad about my decision. Clouds Passing Thursday #10

Leaning toward not going bmichaelh Thursday #11

If you choose to not go to the funeral, you might consider sending a note to family members No Vested Interest Saturday #12

This message was self-deleted by its author bmichaelh Saturday #13