Bereavement

Ziggysmom

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39. So sorry my dear. I just lost my husband February 7th so I can relate. I've been reading some

Sun May 31, 2026, 03:51 PM

3 hrs ago

Elisabeth Kubler Ross, recently her book “On Death and Dying”. The five stages of grief she writes about: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, are bullshit in my opinion. For me there is but one stage, and that is pain.

This one quote does feel true:
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not "get over" the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Take Care, You are not alone in your grief.

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2 years ago today my husband died...... [View all] a kennedy May 4 OP

So sorry a kennedy. That is a big loss. applegrove May 4 #1

Thank you......I'm not getting any better at not crying. Can't believe it's been 2 years. a kennedy May 4 #5

Perhaps too simplistic, but the depth of the pain of a death is a reflection of the... pat_k May 5 #35

I didn't know dweller May 4 #2

Thank you..... a kennedy May 4 #8

I'm so sorry! I think sometimes people are hesitant to say anything Ocelot II May 4 #3

My deepest condolences. greatauntoftriplets May 4 #4

Thank you....... a kennedy May 4 #9

That really saddens me to hear more did not reach out to you. I was not aware and many likewise hlthe2b May 4 #6

I know.....I thought my family would at least reach out......my niece did and she was the only family member a kennedy May 4 #10

I'm sorry for the lack of empathy for your painful loss and 2 years is a long time to feel uncared for Deuxcents May 4 #7

😢 😢 😢 😢 😢 a kennedy May 4 #11

I'm so sorry..sometimes people, including family, think everything is alright but don't check up anyway Deuxcents May 4 #12

It's kinda funny.....am leaving 7 nieces and nephews all our $$$$$.......starting to think may-be a kennedy May 4 #14

Take some of your money and do something for yourself or donate to charity..so many needs out there Deuxcents May 4 #22

You should. FoxNewsSucks May 4 #33

That is my plan. My daughter will get my antique collections & possession's while Ziggysmom 3 hrs ago #40

I'm so sorry dflprincess May 4 #13

Thank you......loved what Joe Biden said.....does help, but still crying thinking about him. a kennedy May 4 #17

It's not uncommon deRien May 4 #15

♥️ ♥️ ♥️ a kennedy May 4 #18

I'm so sorry, a kennedy! Diamond_Dog May 4 #16

DU will ALWAYS be my rock.....emotionally AND politically. Thank you. a kennedy May 4 #19

I'm so sorry for your loss wendyb-NC May 4 #20

So sorry, big hug to ya. Eko May 4 #21

I'm sorry cate94 May 4 #23

💔🫂 OGBuzz May 4 #24

I'm sure that your pain on this anniversary date runs deep. Marie Marie May 4 #25

I'm so sorry. Sending a virtual hug. summer_in_TX May 4 #26

Holding you in love and light. Your DU family is here for you. Lean niyad May 4 #27

Peace 🙏 surfered May 4 #28

Sending Hugs, and Love Your Way! NEOH May 4 #29

Deepest condolences to you SheltieLover May 4 #30

I'm so sorry. hamsterjill May 4 #31

I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling JoseBalow May 4 #32

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. area51 May 4 #34

I hope you find some peace, a kennedy, Bayard May 5 #36

This message was self-deleted by its author jfz9580m May 5 #37

Grief is a stinker Dear_Prudence May 5 #38

So sorry my dear. I just lost my husband February 7th so I can relate. I've been reading some Ziggysmom 3 hrs ago #39

So sorry for you as well Ziggysmom a kennedy 2 hrs ago #41