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orleans

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25. i'm very sorry for you
Wed Jun 13, 2012, 05:19 AM
Jun 2012

this is the hardest time we go through when someone we love transitions out of the physical world. (i'm still grieving for my mom who passed over two and a half years ago; she went to the hospital and twenty two days later i brought her ashes home--on my birthday. it's unbelievable how quickly life can change/alter/skew)

if you are undecided as to what to do with his ashes then just wait...there is no rush. think about it. decide later. it can wait.

comfort yourself for now. talk to him--just because we can't hear them doesn't mean they can't hear us. i'm sure they do--and i'm sure they listen to what we say to them. he may not be able to check his email but that doesn't mean he isn't standing behind you, reading over your shoulder as you write to him.

when we live with someone their physical absence is a stark and constant reminder that our life is never going to be the same. and if life was good, we grieve for that too.

"Death is not the end. It is the beginning. No one you are close to ever dies. There is life everlasting; there is no such thing as death….Death is not a termination but a transition." --george anderson

love doesn't die--it's the bond that keeps us connected--from this world to the next. i truly believe our beloved ones do all they can to stay and comfort us as long as we need them to. if i could hear my mother, and you could hear your husband, they would probably both be saying the same thing: "i never left you."

. NYC_SKP May 2012 #1
Hugs back rhiannon55 May 2012 #5
I find your story very comforting. I think you were very brave. nt snappyturtle May 2012 #2
Thank you, snappyturtle rhiannon55 May 2012 #4
. CaliforniaPeggy May 2012 #3
Thank you Peggy rhiannon55 May 2012 #6
Thank you babylonsister May 2012 #7
Thank you, babylonsister rhiannon55 May 2012 #12
Been through a scattering...and all the feelings you went through. Ken Burch May 2012 #8
It's awful, isn't it? rhiannon55 May 2012 #13
As the years pass, the pain fades Ken Burch May 2012 #23
i am so very sorry UpInArms May 2012 #9
... rhiannon55 May 2012 #14
This was so beautifully said. pacalo May 2012 #10
Thank you, pacalo rhiannon55 May 2012 #15
In deepest sympathy. yellerpup May 2012 #11
Oh, yellerpup rhiannon55 May 2012 #16
Such a beautiful post livetohike May 2012 #17
Thank you so much rhiannon55 May 2012 #18
What an amazing and loved filled experience and so very generous auntAgonist May 2012 #19
Thank you so much, aA rhiannon55 May 2012 #21
Oh, boy... I was a little afraid to read this, but it was so beautifully expressed. Rhiannon12866 May 2012 #20
I'm not surprised, Rhiannon; I was a little afraid to post it. rhiannon55 May 2012 #22
my husband passed 5/27/12. his ashes arrived DesertFlower Jun 2012 #24
i'm very sorry for you orleans Jun 2012 #25
You're a poet... Ron Obvious Jul 2012 #26
i just read this beautiful post babydollhead Nov 2013 #27
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