Bereavement

Marie Marie

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12. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack. Grief never just goes away, it just

Thu Mar 19, 2026, 05:19 PM

Mar 19

begins to lessen over time. But that happens after the initial shock of grief and depression and you are probably solidly in that phase. Counseling might help and you are always welcome to come share with us. We care,,,

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I thought it would get better by now. Husband died 2-6 and I still can't sleep and must force [View all] Ziggysmom Mar 19 OP

(((((Hugs)))) applegrove Mar 19 #1

Hugs back at you! Ziggysmom Mar 19 #22

Wishing you peace for your broken heart 💔 Chat wit us..you may be by yourself but you're not alone 🌺 Deuxcents Mar 19 #2

Thank you, wishing for peace for the world. Ziggysmom Mar 19 #24

I hope it gets easier for you soon. There is no time frame for grief. LoisB Mar 19 #3

I am learning a lot from this forum. Was feeling really low today, but now I Ziggysmom Mar 19 #25

I am sorry. I am most certainly no expert and my professional training is not in that area but hlthe2b Mar 19 #4

This sounds like it would be very helpful. Joinfortmill Mar 19 #9

Thank you for sharing. I'm in Wisconsin waiting for the weather to cooperate so I can get out more. Ziggysmom Mar 19 #30

If you are physically up to it, cross country skiing on public golf courses in winter is another hlthe2b Mar 19 #32

Sunlight on the eyes IbogaProject Mar 20 #74

When my partner died back in 2011... pat_k Mar 20 #82

I remember Senator... I somehow missed his inclusion in the "Memoriam" page for 2011 so hlthe2b Mar 20 #84

Understandable blm Mar 19 #5

Contact your local hospice for bereavement counseling SheltieLover Mar 19 #6

I joined a hospice group when my dad died Tree Lady Mar 19 #28

Yes, groups are incredibly powerful! SheltieLover Mar 19 #39

It's still very, very early. And grief is very different than depression. I know it's really Scrivener7 Mar 19 #7

Prayed for you. Grief is painful. Joinfortmill Mar 19 #8

Buy a marble cover composition book and journal it out bucolic_frolic Mar 19 #10

Thank you. My daughter has polycystic kidney disease and Dr. Bergs keto diet really helps Ziggysmom Mar 19 #36

I lost my son a little over 4 years ago crimycarny Mar 19 #11

Those two words said it all. GRIEF ILLITERATE. We get three whole days of bereavement leave Ziggysmom Mar 19 #41

I swear if I heard "you're so strong" one more time crimycarny Mar 19 #59

One of my friends lost a child to suicide Marthe48 Mar 20 #71

Second the motion EuterpeThelo Mar 20 #69

Be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack. Grief never just goes away, it just Marie Marie Mar 19 #12

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. Diamond_Dog Mar 19 #13

It's too soon Lulu KC Mar 19 #14

Ziggysmom... dlilafae Mar 19 #15

When my fiance died suddenly in his early 30s, I walked the same trail every day for a year. femmedem Mar 19 #16

Grieve is a journey. traveler50 Mar 19 #17

It is difficult to move on. A lttle over a month is pretty fast. Fla Dem Mar 19 #18

I am so terribly sorry. Trueblue Texan Mar 19 #19

DU Hug!!! Ponietz Mar 19 #20

I can't even imagine how it feels Tesha Mar 19 #21

I almost completely stopped eating for 3 years cpamomfromtexas Mar 19 #23

Grief is a very personal process BigmanPigman Mar 19 #26

Good thoughts and advice. yellow dahlia Mar 19 #37

❤️ underpants Mar 19 #27

Its only been about 6 weeks BonnieJW Mar 19 #29

Sending a virtual hug Tree Lady Mar 19 #31

(((gentle hug))) 🫂 mwmisses4289 Mar 19 #33

Everything's harder in this environment. yellow dahlia Mar 19 #34

Hey Ziggysmom! Once again I realize just how VALUABLE this place is. calimary Mar 19 #35

I'd so sorry for your loss kimbutgar Mar 19 #38

"" AllaN01Bear Mar 19 #40

THANK YOU EVERYONE! Everyone will experience grief in their lifetime. It should not be Ziggysmom Mar 19 #42

hitthe2b is right, go outside Figarosmom Mar 19 #43

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope Mar 19 #44

Huggggggs, my friend and please be kind and gentle and loving niyad Mar 19 #45

Oh my dear Ziggysmom, My heart hurts for you as you are inching your way through this journey that was suddenly thrust KitFox Mar 19 #46

My deepest condolences to you. I share Hassler Mar 19 #47

I lost my wife of 40 years three years ago. kairos12 Mar 19 #48

I'm sorry you are going through this Danmel Mar 19 #49

I am sorry for what you are gooing through and hope that you find some solace with it all soon. marked50 Mar 19 #50

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom... Bayard Mar 19 #51

It took me 7 years to feel better synni Mar 19 #52

Dear Ziggysmom, here is what helped me when my beloved died in October. MLAA Mar 19 #53

.... chowder66 Mar 19 #54

you're being too hard on yourself Skittles Mar 19 #55

I am so sorry. BlueKota Mar 19 #56

Two of the very best ways to deal with grief for me, JMCKUSICK Mar 19 #57

This community is here for you. Moostache Mar 19 #58

{{ Hugs }} EKR's books helped me understand the physical component of grief GreatGazoo Mar 19 #60

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. highplainsdem Mar 19 #61

That's not that long malaise Mar 19 #62

Hugs my friend. Dunc Mar 20 #63

lost my hubby almost two years ago. SleeplessinSoCal Mar 20 #64

it is only a month. give it time. rampartd Mar 20 #65

Last night I was watching a documentary about Jane Austen mnhtnbb Mar 20 #66

I hope you find some peace and comfort JoseBalow Mar 20 #67

Oh, Ziggysmom EuterpeThelo Mar 20 #68

Sending you love gademocrat7 Mar 20 #70

My husband died in 2017 Marthe48 Mar 20 #72

My wife died 9/17/25 TexLaProgressive Mar 20 #73

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you love in a difficult time. 58Sunliner Mar 20 #75

It will get better spinbaby Mar 20 #76

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and I am concerned over your struggle dealing with that loss. ... marble falls Mar 20 #77

One foot in front of the other foot. The pain is real no doubt but just "doing things" Will help. Botany Mar 20 #78

I am so sorry for your loss. It took me over 4 years to feel "normal" again after my husbands death. maptap22 Mar 20 #79

There is no timeline for grief dlk Mar 20 #80

It will be nine years next month, and I still get tears in my eyes when a certain song comes on tavernier Mar 20 #81

Been there, done that and a word of caution. Momma Mar 20 #83

Sending a big hug Wild blueberry Mar 20 #85