I'm going to get a divorce.

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9. I am in a similar situation, except

my kids are younger than yours. My daughter is only 4 and my son is 11. Right now we have basically acknowledged that we will divorce. Things are not outwardly hostile to the point that I think it is negatively affecting the kids. Besides them the main thing that is keeping us together is finances. I had thought we had been working towards improving the situation, although I now realizing that she made up her mind months ago and only recently admitted that there was no hope. The news was actually kind of liberating. I now merely try to be a good roommate and to put on a facade for the kids. Besides that I have felt freer to stand up too her, where as before I took her verbal abuse in an effort to make her happy.

I totally admit that I have plenty of faults and share a lot of the blame for our current situation. However she I feel that she gave up and wasn't willing to go for outside help, whereas I was working to bring more to the relationship.

Part of me wonders if by standing up for myself and showing that I too am ready for a divorce will actually help our situation. I guess this means that I haven't totally given up hope.